So I've been with my BF for over a year and he has always been a runner. This year, he decided it would be a good idea to run in the upcoming marathon.
At first I was all excited for him and while I continue to be supportive of his impressive efforts.. I can't help but be a bit frustrated with the following :
At first I was all excited for him and while I continue to be supportive of his impressive efforts.. I can't help but be a bit frustrated with the following :
- he is tired about 95% of the time I am with him, which leads to miserable grumpiness on his part, which totally rubs off on me
- he falls into some sort of depression if he doesn't meet his distance goal for the week (god forbid he hits 28 miles instead of 30!)
- muscle soreness, blisters, cramps galore!
- pretty much no social activities at all (including no alcohol)
- to bed very early on weekends because he gets up at the ass-crack for long runs.. Usually I sleep in my own bed at my own place since he needs a guaranteed good night of sleep without distractions (me)
- due to all of the above, sexual activity is almost non-existent
Basically he is cheating on me with the marathon.
Don't get me wrong.. I find his efforts incredible and hopefully I have been a great support system so far. I just need to vent to a message board rather than to him since I'd rather not discourage him. The last thing I want is for him to feel guilty after listening to me selfishly complaining about the above issues.
Anyways, am I alone in this? Is this a normal relationship adjustment which happens during marathon training? At the end of the day I love him, support him, and truly want him to succeed. I mean, it could be worse!
