There is this guy I work with. We'll call him Brian. We've worked together for 4 months or so, but on different shifts so hadn't really gotten around to the getting to know you thing. About a month ago we ended up working a couple hours together and really got along well. We decided to go out on the "town" together and ended up going to karaoke, play pool and drink one night (a month ago). Lots of fun and kissing ensued that night. The kissing was perfect. Seriously. I've never been that comfortable kissing anyone. I ended up staying at his place (again, making out, no sex). I found him intelligent, kind, funny and (obviously) cute. We spent some time together in the week following (chess, time with his friends and mine, just talking). To give all the info he is 25 divorced with a toddler, I'm 34 never married with a 12 & 14 year old. After a week I asked him if he was interested in pursuing something more than just a friendship (not commitment but a "getting to know you" kinda thing). He told me there was another woman he's been interested in for a few months and he now has a chance to try things with her. She happens to be a co-worker of mine, Tanya, and someone I've worked with for almost 2 years. Tanya is curvy, 20 and typical "college girl" mentality. She's a hoot and I like her. Tanya goes from guy to guy. She likes the chase. I live vicariously through her on a constant basis. I understood. I found out Tanya liked Brian and I backed off. He made a choice and I respected that he told me right off the bat as to not lead me on. I'm OK with open dating, but it's not the way my small town works and Tanya would not have been OK with it.
Now Tanya has slept with another guy while in the kinda dating phase with Brian. She texted me and said you should get him back cause I did this. I told her she needed to tell him because he did that for me and he deserves to be told, but that I would not be going after him. I'm not a second prize. If he liked me enough he'd have chosen me to begin with. Tanya told Brian and he's furious with her. She said he really likes me. I also work with his sister and even she is saying that once he calms down he will want to spend time with me again. I like him. I really do. But. but I can't be a second prize. I'm old enough to understand that if you find someone that seems to... fit.... you should hold onto it because happiness can be few and far between, but.........
Help?
