So my world changed drastically when my bf received a call from his father this morning. Since my bf's mother passed away earlier this year hid dad has been living on his own thousands of miles away from us. Long story short, he wants to come live with us, he told my bf.
I knew this could happen someday but I wasn't prepared for it now, especially as we are living in a small place and don't really have the space.
And then there's the issue of his father smoking. I hate smoking, don't want it done in my house. My boyfriend is telling me his dad will smoke outdoors but once winter comes I expect there to be issues.
Then there's the issue of I don't want us to rush into buying a place, but because his dad is now here but we may have to. There's also the fact we're not married and not engaged, either. I've never been big on marriage but the longer we date without him proposing it gives me an 'am-I-not-good-enough' complex. Plus, I'm leery of buying a place as bf & gf, not husband and wife. But I don't want to get into a discussion with him about that now, esp. as his dad seems to have some potentially major undiagnosed health problems going on.
Anyway, any helpful hints for living in tight quarters with family, or how to handle the housebuying/not married issue, are appreciated.
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I knew this could happen someday but I wasn't prepared for it now, especially as we are living in a small place and don't really have the space.
And then there's the issue of his father smoking. I hate smoking, don't want it done in my house. My boyfriend is telling me his dad will smoke outdoors but once winter comes I expect there to be issues.
Then there's the issue of I don't want us to rush into buying a place, but because his dad is now here but we may have to. There's also the fact we're not married and not engaged, either. I've never been big on marriage but the longer we date without him proposing it gives me an 'am-I-not-good-enough' complex. Plus, I'm leery of buying a place as bf & gf, not husband and wife. But I don't want to get into a discussion with him about that now, esp. as his dad seems to have some potentially major undiagnosed health problems going on.
Anyway, any helpful hints for living in tight quarters with family, or how to handle the housebuying/not married issue, are appreciated.
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