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AngeLeeLee wrote:Just ask where he sees things going? Its not that hard jesus. Youre going to stop dating a rally nice gy because you are confused when you can just simply ask. How dumb
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HumpThatStage wrote:AngeLeeLee wrote:Just ask where he sees things going? Its not that hard jesus. Youre going to stop dating a rally nice gy because you are confused when you can just simply ask. How dumb I don't see where I said or alluded to the idea that I was going to stop seeing him. You are right, that would be very dumb I didn't go to the lunch today because I haven't eaten a meal without him since Friday afternoon. I needed a break! He is a great guy and I am lucky to have him as anything to me, even if it is just a friend. I am planning on asking him what is going on the next time we see each other. It isn't like I am asking him what day of the week it is Asking something like that makes me vulnerabl, and I obviously have that fear of rejection. Regardless, I have already mentioned how I can to realize that I was over thinking things. I'm just going to try to look at things a bit differently from this point.
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Dramatica Mujer wrote:I think it's way too soon to be asking this guy where things are going. You've only hung out like two days. I'd be scared off immediately if a guy was like "where is this going, what are we doing, are these dates, whats happening?" and we'd only hung out a handful of times. Way too much too soon. Just go with the flow and see where things go. He's probably just trying to get to know you right now, not define what everything is.
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imnotsayingitright wrote:Yes, he is interested you. Guys might occasionally ask a female friend to hang out or occasionally pay for a female friend, etc. But to completely do all of it and everything and ask to do it again, that's definitely an attempt to date. And he may not be going in for a kiss just yet because he's nervous, too. You make it sound like he has all the cards, but he may not feel that way. P.S. My friend just went through this like three months ago, I guess, and she was convincing herself that he didn't like her as more than a friend (even though I kept telling her of course he did), so she really backed off on trying to see him, I guess so she didn't seem desperate, and in the meantime, another girl (a girl we don't know but who knows my friend's roommate) pretty much jumped on the guy and now he's dating HER (the other girl). And after the fact, my friend was like, "I'm so dumb, of course he liked me." And I was just like, yeah.
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Jeannine8 wrote:I think you should just go with it, don't take things so seriously, stop trying to 'obsess' about it, wondering if it's a date or not, just go on, have fun. You two obviously get along, you seem to have fun together, so why quit that? However I do have to say, don't make yourself too available. Now, if this goes on for a much longer period of time, then yes, just go ahead and assume you'll be friends and nothing more, but I think trying to define everything right at the beginning could potentially kill something good down the line.
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franknbeans82 wrote:imnotsayingitright wrote:Yes, he is interested you. Guys might occasionally ask a female friend to hang out or occasionally pay for a female friend, etc. But to completely do all of it and everything and ask to do it again, that's definitely an attempt to date. And he may not be going in for a kiss just yet because he's nervous, too. You make it sound like he has all the cards, but he may not feel that way. P.S. My friend just went through this like three months ago, I guess, and she was convincing herself that he didn't like her as more than a friend (even though I kept telling her of course he did), so she really backed off on trying to see him, I guess so she didn't seem desperate, and in the meantime, another girl (a girl we don't know but who knows my friend's roommate) pretty much jumped on the guy and now he's dating HER (the other girl). And after the fact, my friend was like, "I'm so dumb, of course he liked me." And I was just like, yeah.see, that's where things get confusing. on the one hand, you can play it cool like your friend did and lose out. on the other hand, you can be more aggressive and scare the person away, lol. sometimes it's hard to know the right thing to do.
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