I'm going to hope I get some feedback/insight on a very confusing situation...
There is a boy in my school. He lives with a (beautiful) girlfriend of three years. I started to notice that he would insert himself into the group conversation anytime I was talking to a mutual friend of his, and that's how we got introduced. Eventually he got my number. This was a month ago. Since then, he has texted me from the minute he wakes up to the minute he goes to sleep, everyday. Our relationship has escalated pretty rapidly, to the point where we see each other every morning for coffee, and end the school day together with an afternoon chat. But beyond the fact that I've noticed he hovers around me for hours (and admits it), he tells me SO many both emotionally and sexually inappropriate things. If you read the transcript of our conversations, you would 100% think we are together. Every other word is telling each other how much we like each other; how much we can't get enough; how beautiful he thinks I am; how much we want each other; etc.
BUT, we've never really even kissed. He touches me all the time, in a tease-you kind of way like rubbing your thigh or brushing against your ass, but he will not give me an "open mouth" kiss (closed mouth is ok). I make fun of him for it, and he says it's because he knows it would be game over if he really kissed me and he'd go all the way. He says he's scared of me, and talks about me as if I am some kind of witch, with a "strange power" over him. When I tell him he seems bored with his relationship and "over it," he agrees but doesn't seem to have any plans to leave it. In fact, he asks for my "secrecy" and talks about all he would "lose" if he went too far with me (which I think he already has...) He seems in a constant moral/psychological conflict. He is religious.
Needless to say, I am extremely confused. How is someone who wakes up every morning with the first thought to see me, in love with his girlfriend? How does someone who tells me explicit details of sexual fantasies he has of me, turn down an opportunity to kiss me? Why would anyone continuously, everyday, put themselves in risky/dangerous situations, if they don't want to cheat on their girlfriend?
I realize this is a weird/fucked up situation, and I wouldn't even care about it if it weren't for the fact that I am falling for him. I'd like some clarity on what outsiders think is going on.
I am pretty familiar with the idea of a guy trying to get in your pants, but here is one who...wants to spend lots of time with me, and (for the moment) is willfully not getting in my pants. I am completely thrown for a loop.
