Backstory :
Me and my Dad have never, ever had a good relationship and my parents divorced when I was 10. Since then the relationship was fairly distant but I still had grandparents so I was around a lot more. When my Grandpa died in 2006, I had this feeling me & my Dad's relationship would possibly fall apart (my sister stopped talking to/visiting him long before that) - and it ultimately did. For many reasons.
I haven't talked to him in about 2.5 years. I wrote him a letter last summer and his wife ended up calling me and leaving me a very rude voicemail. Then she recanted and called me back apologizing and saying my Dad loved me, etc etc. Well that pissed me off he couldn't even call me. And I've always had a slight problem with his wife. Anyway, I haven't heard from either of them since then.
Fast forward to a few nights ago, my boyfriend and I were out at dinner and talking about all sorts of things. Then he randomly says he wants to meet my Dad. He said he would really like to meet him. Which I found odd, because a few months ago he asked me who he would have to ask if he wanted to marry me. I told him my mom and he said, "I am not asking your Mom"
And he said he didn't want to meet my Dad then. Now a part of me would still like some sort of relationship with my Dad, but there are things about him I don't like so I don't think we can ever be close but at least visiting from time to time. I'm not even sure how to begin how to do that. And frankly, not 100% sure I'm ready for whatever is going to go down/be said.
Me and my Dad have never, ever had a good relationship and my parents divorced when I was 10. Since then the relationship was fairly distant but I still had grandparents so I was around a lot more. When my Grandpa died in 2006, I had this feeling me & my Dad's relationship would possibly fall apart (my sister stopped talking to/visiting him long before that) - and it ultimately did. For many reasons.
I haven't talked to him in about 2.5 years. I wrote him a letter last summer and his wife ended up calling me and leaving me a very rude voicemail. Then she recanted and called me back apologizing and saying my Dad loved me, etc etc. Well that pissed me off he couldn't even call me. And I've always had a slight problem with his wife. Anyway, I haven't heard from either of them since then.
Fast forward to a few nights ago, my boyfriend and I were out at dinner and talking about all sorts of things. Then he randomly says he wants to meet my Dad. He said he would really like to meet him. Which I found odd, because a few months ago he asked me who he would have to ask if he wanted to marry me. I told him my mom and he said, "I am not asking your Mom"
