Her 8-year-old daughter has a 58 in Reading. So my sister told me that to "teach her a lesson" she's going to send her to live with her dad. She
received a call from the teacher today that my niece hasn't done her homework in 2 days. First of all, I think my sister needs to make sure she does the
homework, rather than just ask "did you finish it?" She needs to check her folder daily, like she does for her 4-year-old who is in pre-school. She
needs to sit with her and help her rather than just assuming she knows how to do it all. She needs to treat her like an 8-year-old. My sister is constantly
telling me that she needs her daughter to act 8 rather than 18. Then treat her like she's 8.
She needs to tell her daughter that she can't go to the Miley Cyrus concert on Sunday (I bought tickets and was going to take her...it was all contingent on grades. Tell her she can't go. Shows we mean what we say). Don't let her do competitive cheering (she was asked last weekend if she wanted to go to competitions) or choir after school. These are things that keep her from getting her homework done.
I don't think sending her to live with her dad is going to help, but rather hurt her education. His idea of making kids do their homework is to spank them until its done. Again, no working WITH the child. Also, removing her from one school to send her to one three hours away, and then eventually move back here is only going to hurt her education. I see it all the time with my students who move away and then move back. They fall behind. And why would she want to separate her daughters? I can't help but think that it would make the 8-year-old, who already has low self-esteem, think that her mother prefers her younger sister to her.
I just think the whole thing is a bad idea.
She needs to tell her daughter that she can't go to the Miley Cyrus concert on Sunday (I bought tickets and was going to take her...it was all contingent on grades. Tell her she can't go. Shows we mean what we say). Don't let her do competitive cheering (she was asked last weekend if she wanted to go to competitions) or choir after school. These are things that keep her from getting her homework done.
I don't think sending her to live with her dad is going to help, but rather hurt her education. His idea of making kids do their homework is to spank them until its done. Again, no working WITH the child. Also, removing her from one school to send her to one three hours away, and then eventually move back here is only going to hurt her education. I see it all the time with my students who move away and then move back. They fall behind. And why would she want to separate her daughters? I can't help but think that it would make the 8-year-old, who already has low self-esteem, think that her mother prefers her younger sister to her.
I just think the whole thing is a bad idea.
