My best friend was never spanked, only reasoned with and explained to. What did it teach her? How to argue!
Kate Gosselin "Losing control" Spanking her child
| Started By | Comment | ||
|---|---|---|---|
 Tigerjag |
|||
|
Posts: 163 (06/18/2009 2:17 PM) |
|
||
|
Courtney Love1 |
|||
|
Posts: 6409 (06/18/2009 2:30 PM) |
Dana278 wrote: It's not about Kate being 'Queen Kate', it's about Kate being the PARENT and Leah being the CHILD. So, yes, if Kate wanted Leah to stop playing with the toy, for whatever reason, and Leah didn't want to do it on her own, then Kate, as the adult and parent in that household, has every right to do what she felt she needed to do to get Leah to stop playing with the toy. |
||
 Momobobo |
|||
|
Posts: 11070 (06/18/2009 2:54 PM) |
JeterFan wrote:And you think it's all based on luck and not the way the child is raised from birth? |
||
|
JeterFan |
|||
|
Posts: 20832 (06/18/2009 3:13 PM) |
No it's not about luck. I hoped no one would take it that way. If you talk to your child and your child learns and obeys you without the spanking
that's a good thing they learned from you. But for some children no matter how much or how long and hard the parent talks and explain that child will not
listen. Or they may listen and refuse to obey.
You can have the same parent raise multiple children the exact same way and one chooses to behave and one chooses not to. Children are all different. There is no "standard" on how to raise them. Some require different forms of punishment than others. |
||
|
Momobobo |
|||
|
Posts: 11071 (06/18/2009 3:17 PM) |
JeterFan wrote:I agree with that for the most part, but instead of "different forms of punishment" I would prefer to think about it as the parent needing to approach each child differently, based on the kid's natural strengths and weaknesses when faced with situations they aren't particularly comfortable in. |
||
|
LuvBug |
|||
|
Posts: 2926 (06/18/2009 3:27 PM) |
No one is going to change their minds so....
|
||
|
Tealeaf |
|||
|
Posts: 2643 (06/18/2009 3:37 PM) |
Next Kate will shave her head and expose her crotch
|
||
|
chocolate covered raisins |
|||
|
Posts: 29764 (06/18/2009 3:37 PM) Chris Fanatic '03 |
There is nothing wrong with spanking your kids on their butt if they are repeatedly not listening. And there is a big difference between a spanking and a
beating. If she popped the girl on the butt, big deal. I'm guessing she had to have been doing something pretty bad to get Kate up off her ass to begin
with. I think this was blown way out of proportion. I don't like Kate either but come on. If every 'famous' person who spanked their kids got the
third degree like this almost every single parent would be headline news.
|
||
|
VelvetRope11 |
|||
|
Posts: 30727 (06/18/2009 3:47 PM) |
proudhebrew23 wrote: And the converse is just as true. To act as though there is no logical or possible way to raise well behaved children with spanking used as a form of punishment, is also laughable. |
||
|
Jloveandjlo |
|||
|
Posts: 5611 (06/19/2009 11:24 PM) |
Courtney Love1 wrote: HOLLA! |
||
|
Dana278 |
|||
|
Posts: 70779 (06/19/2009 11:55 PM) Most Generous JJBer '07 |
"She has every right to do what she felt she needed to do" sounds so bizarre and harsh. Some of you are going to be scary parents!
Forget about Kate for a second. Pretend this entire alleged situation happened at a park. I know my ass is going to judge the mom who spanks her kid for blowing on a whistle because she can't hear on her cell phone. (And again, I'm all for spanking children when necessary!)
Edited By: Dana278
06/19/2009 11:57 PM.
Edited 1 times.
|
||
|
MissyJG |
|||
|
Posts: 2808 (06/20/2009 12:03 AM) |
Why 10 pages? What on earth is the big deal with spanking? Some people don't believe in it. Some do. But to call it abusive is just silly. If I see a kid
getting totally out of control, I'd totally get it if that kid would be spanked.
|
||
|
Jloveandjlo |
|||
|
Posts: 5614 (06/20/2009 12:20 AM) |
Dana278 wrote: It's more to do with her just blowing the whistle. When my mother told me to stop, I had to stop. No questions asked. If she told her to stop blowing the whistle, she should've stopped. Period |
||
|
DoesThatSparkle |
|||
|
Posts: 2693 (06/20/2009 12:23 AM) |
Jloveandjlo wrote:Exactly. She wasn't spanked for simply blowing the whistle. She was spanked because she was told to stop and didn't...she disobeyed. |
||
|
Dana278 |
|||
|
Posts: 70783 (06/20/2009 12:39 AM) Most Generous JJBer '07 |
I get that she disobeyed, I really do. I guess I can't make anyone else see my point of view. Maybe you guys are just unwilling to budge and see another
side of things, I don't know.
I just don't understand how spanking is effective when you do it for every tiny thing. In the grand scheme of things, a whistle blow is a tiny thing. At some point you just have to relax a bit and not be so serious. Now say one kid was chasing another with a pair of scissors and was told to stop but didn't. THEN you spank. 
Everyone can save the "but she is the mom and can do what she wants!" because everything has already been said and it's just boring now. |
||
|
Sassys1745 |
|||
|
Posts: 1210 (06/20/2009 5:22 PM) |
I was reading the In Touch article today in the bookstore. My question is, if they have 24 acres of land, why do we always see them playing in the front of the
house? Do they ever play in the backyard? Maybe it would be harder to take pictures. Kate and Jon like the attention and want the paparazzi to see them.
|
||
Quick Reply
