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JeterFan wrote:

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I don't understand how men who say they don't want kids are criticized as much as women who say they don't want them. As if a woman is doing something wrong by not wanting kids. We already have enough kids in the world already so why do some people have a problem when a woman says she doesn't want any? Just raise your own kids and don't worry about anyone else's decision.

I think it's because we, as women, judge other women WAY more harshly than men judge each other. Seriously, look at some of the posts on this board! If a woman is heavier than the norm, she's the fattest thing that ever existed, and MUST be unhappy or have some sort of disorder- same goes for women that are considered too thin- they MUST be anorectic, or have some eating disorder. If you want a truckload of kids, you're a selfish, stupid bitch, and if you don't want any kids, you're a selfish, self-absorbed, unhappy person. Mothers that have natural childbirth look down their noses at women who've had C-sections. Women who breast feed look down their noses at women who use bottles. Women with careers look down on SAHMs, and some SAHMs look down at women that work, instead of staying home with the kids....I could go on, but what I really mean is, there is NOTHING wrong with not wanting kids, it's just a lifestyle choice. There's also nothing wrong with wanting 10 kids, provided that you can afford them, and will be a good parent to them, and you aren't having them to become your own TV series, so you can get freebies. There's nothing wrong with being fat, thin, short, tall, black, white, whatever. We judge each other too much. We need to worry about our OWN lives and choices, not about other women.