I found out from my boyfriends mother that
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FindingAnotherYou |
I found out from my boyfriends mother that |
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Posts: 2037 (05/13/2009 5:05 PM) |
he has attachment disorder and basically everything he's told me has been a lie. I feel so horrible for him. I've been having a conversation through
email with his mother. I feel so horrible about how I treated him when I caught him in a lie.
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Jonesy |
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Posts: 5543 (05/13/2009 5:06 PM) |
What is attachment disorder? Is that why he lied to you?
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Posts: 5535 (05/13/2009 5:07 PM) |
*confused*
Aren't you the one that's worried she's pregnant by a guy she wants nothing to do with? If so, who is this 'boyfriend'? |
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Posts: 6693 (05/13/2009 5:09 PM) |
Wouldnt that be her fault then?
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LaNcEsOnLyGiRLy |
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Posts: 21969 (05/13/2009 5:10 PM) |
My brain hurts.
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Posts: 5266 (05/13/2009 5:10 PM) |
Maybe his mother is the liar.
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FindingAnotherYou |
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Posts: 2038 (05/13/2009 5:10 PM) |
I took a test and it was negative, this guy wouldn't have been the father. We had broken up because of his lies and I slept with someone.
He was adopted but before that his real mother abused him. I mean she was really horrible to him. His mom told me and if he's talking, then it's most likely lies. |
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Posts: 5545 (05/13/2009 5:10 PM) |
If he has been telling you lies about everything, how come you feel bad for him? I am so confused.
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Dylishis |
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Posts: 8902 (05/13/2009 5:11 PM) Most Outspoken '08
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Posts: 2631 (05/13/2009 5:11 PM) |
So confused.
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Posts: 8886 (05/13/2009 5:14 PM) |
Dylishis wrote: |
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Posts: 2039 (05/13/2009 5:14 PM) |
Jonesy wrote: He has no control over it. He was adopted, I should have said that in the first post. He goes to therapy with his parents for it. Most of the lies are just stupid nonsense and it makes no sense why he would lie about it. It isn't funny, it's a very serious disorder. However, I don't think I can be with him. But I'd feel bad about breaking up with him, thats like breaking up with someone because they're bipolar or something. |
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Posts: 2040 (05/13/2009 5:17 PM) |
ok let me try to explain this, I just started reading up on it so I don't know everything.
Before he was adopted his mother severely abused him. You develop it before you're like 5 or something, let me try to find the signs. Here is the causes Many factors can potentially interfere with the development of attachment between the mother or primary caregiver and the infant-curtailed mother/child interaction, including lack of holding, poor verbal and sensory stimulation and inadequate physical care and feeding. Alcohol and drug use by the caregiver may also affect parenting ability and interfere with the formation of an attachment relationship. Certain situations, such as lack of a primary caregiver, prolonged hospital stay, extreme poverty, parental inexperience, and parental social isolation, may predispose a child to developing in a deprived environment that in turn may lead to a Reactive Attachment Disorder. However, it must be noted that some children form stable attachments and social relationships despite marked neglect or abuse. |
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Posts: 10590 (05/13/2009 5:18 PM) Friendliest JJBer '09
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FindingAnotherYou wrote:...not to be mean but you break up because these lies hurt you and so you spring to the bed of another without any protection? ... I feel bad he has an attachment disorder - whatever that is, because he's attached to the wrong person. |
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Mistress Darcy |
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Posts: 9061 (05/13/2009 5:18 PM) |
Lol
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Jonesy |
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Posts: 5546 (05/13/2009 5:18 PM) |
I wasn't laughing at him or anything. I was laughing at myself because I had no idea what was going on.
I couldn't be with someone that I couldn't trust, even if it wasn't their fault. Is this something that can be cured? I don't know anything about it. |
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FindingAnotherYou |
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Posts: 2041 (05/13/2009 5:22 PM) |
Jonesy wrote:They've been going to therapy for awhile and it doesn't seem to help.But yeah, i told her I don't think I can be with him. She understood. And he really is a sweet guy. If I had been pregnant, he said he would have been the father and he was excited about it. It kills me because when lies aren't being thrown around, he's such an awesome guy. I just can't take it anymore. |
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Posts: 7629 (05/13/2009 5:23 PM) |
This seriously makes no sense at all
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Posts: 4977 (05/13/2009 5:23 PM) |
nowhere in those symptoms does it say they will lie about nonsense.
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Posts: 2042 (05/13/2009 5:24 PM) |
Lideem wrote: I didn't said I was pregnant, I had a scare and I took a test and i'm not. Back off. I'm not looking for an argument here, I have enough of those in my real life. As for the dehydration thing, I was really, really sick and eventually got fluids and I'm 100% better so get over it. Stop beating a dead horse. |
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Courtney Love1 |
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Posts: 5537 (05/13/2009 5:28 PM) |
Are you and that JJB poster JamieLoverGurl related?
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