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I took a test and it was negative, this guy wouldn't have been the father. We had broken up because of his lies and I slept with someone.

He was adopted but before that his real mother abused him. I mean she was really horrible to him. His mom told me and if he's talking, then it's most likely lies.

ok let me try to explain this, I just started reading up on it so I don't know everything.


Before he was adopted his mother severely abused him. You develop it before you're like 5 or something, let me try to find the signs.

Here is the causes

Many factors can potentially interfere with the development of attachment between the mother or primary caregiver and the infant-curtailed mother/child interaction, including lack of holding, poor verbal and sensory stimulation and inadequate physical care and feeding. Alcohol and drug use by the caregiver may also affect parenting ability and interfere with the formation of an attachment relationship. Certain situations, such as lack of a primary caregiver, prolonged hospital stay, extreme poverty, parental inexperience, and parental social isolation, may predispose a child to developing in a deprived environment that in turn may lead to a Reactive Attachment Disorder. However, it must be noted that some children form stable attachments and social relationships despite marked neglect or abuse.

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I wasn't laughing at him or anything. I was laughing at myself because I had no idea what was going on.

I couldn't be with someone that I couldn't trust, even if it wasn't their fault. Is this something that can be cured? I don't know anything about it.

They've been going to therapy for awhile and it doesn't seem to help.But yeah, i told her I don't think I can be with him. She understood.

And he really is a sweet guy. If I had been pregnant, he said he would have been the father and he was excited about it. It kills me because when lies aren't being thrown around, he's such an awesome guy. I just can't take it anymore.