Whatever. My parents had me and my brother in their late 30s and we came out fine. Yes there is more chance for things to go wrong but you get screened during
pregnancy.
Having a child at 30+
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My mom had my brother at 39 and my sister when she was 47.
 Neither planned and a surprised. Both healthy and everything. She was 24 when she had me and 28
when she had my other brother.
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Posts: 3120 (04/16/2009 2:51 AM) |
30s is not old at all, i would start worrying if i get to my 50s maybe
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Posts: 3366 (04/16/2009 2:56 AM) |
My mom had me at 35.
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Posts: 14410 (04/16/2009 2:57 AM) |
I hit 35 this year and I don't see kids in the near future, but if I marry a guy who wants kids, I have no problem with that. My mom had my brother in her
mid 30s and enjoyed quite a bit with him. She wasn't too old or anything.
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JJB Is The New Google |
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Posts: 239 (04/16/2009 3:16 AM) |
I'm 28, and starting to get the urge to start a family. But my boyfriend and I have it planned out, so we probably won't even start trying until
I'm 29 or 30. I couldn't even imagine having a child any earlier, my early 20s I was still trying to find myself and figure out what I wanted. Now that
I've found a man I can see myself spending a lifetime with, it's all coming together.
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JinkyJibes |
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Posts: 37379 (04/16/2009 4:36 AM) |
My mum had my youngest brother at 41
He's 18 now.
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Posts: 425 (04/16/2009 4:55 AM) |
my mother had me at 34 years old, my youngest sib when she was 40. She and we kids have had no problems so far...
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Posts: 13617 (04/16/2009 7:29 AM) |
I'm 25 now and I am in no rush to pop out a kid anytime soon. My sister is 24 with 2 kids and told me she wishes she would have waited 10 yrs |
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Posts: 27721 (04/16/2009 7:30 AM) |
That's probably the best time to have kids IMO.
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noordinarygirls8789 |
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Posts: 5308 (04/16/2009 7:56 AM) |
I'm all for the 30+ parents.
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Hamptonic |
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Posts: 1588 (04/16/2009 8:03 AM) |
I had my baby at 30 (one year ago 5/9). I like that I had my 20's to be selfish and discover myself, my husband and the world. I feel like I can be a
better mother because of it. That said, I do feel the pressure now to not wait too long before having a second and possibly a third (if that is in the cards).
The health risks do increase as the mother and father (as research shows now) age so that is a little unnerving.
Also I do look at people who started having kids in their late 20's (27/28/29) and sometimes I wish I started then just because it would give me a couple of more years with my kids and honestly at 27/28/29 I was done with the selfish stage and really just working to pay bills (mortgage/2 cars/vet bills). Don't forget too that as you age fertility decreases- even in your 30's. So I'm happy I was mature when I had my baby (and my body bounced back - but friends my age had issues) but ideally I think I would have started a couple of years earlier (28 ish). |
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Posts: 7519 (04/16/2009 8:27 AM) |
I'm 33 and I don't have any children yet. I was immature from 20-30 pretty much, and I did alot of things for myself that my best friend with 3 kids at
my same age has not been able to do (she has a 10 year old, 4 and 2) I don't regret that decision. I don't see anything wrong with it at all, actually
I think it's better than having them while you are too young.
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Posts: 11375 (04/16/2009 8:27 AM) |
I had two in my mid-twenties and two in my mid thirties. I can tell you that the pregnancies were more difficult when I was older and my body definitely
didn't 'bounce' back. Heck, it fell with a thud. But the only thing that is certain is that life is UNcertain-- having your children young is no
guarantee that you will see them grow and by having them older you will not be in your prime to care for them.
Ultimately you do what is best for you and your family. |
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Posts: 74770 (04/16/2009 8:36 AM) JJB Debater '03 |
I'm 33 and pregnant for the first time, so we know where I stand.
Every woman I know recognizes that the older she gets, the more potential risks she
has, the more difficult it can be to get pregnant. I wasn't ready to have children in my 20s. Now I am.
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MuppetGrrl |
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Posts: 74771 (04/16/2009 8:38 AM) JJB Debater '03 |
BTW, if I assume that most women want to have children within a marriage or committed relationship, then I think it's great that some women find that
relationship in their 20s. I didn't.
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Posts: 1829 (04/16/2009 8:51 AM) |
Lory R wrote: ITA. |
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Dayum Gina |
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Posts: 1408 (04/16/2009 8:52 AM) |
The majority of people I know waited until their thirties to have children. I had my first at 27 and second at 30. I feel like a teenage mother whenever
I'm at either of my daughters' schools.
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Posts: 1143 (04/16/2009 8:54 AM) |
Some people are just too old fashioned, it's ridiculous.
I'm really on the fence about ever having kids, but if I do one day decide to have some it would be close to 40 because I actually want to be successful and enjoy my life before settling down with kids. |
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Posts: 1590 (04/16/2009 8:54 AM) |
mm wrote: That is the best advice ever. You never know what life will throw at your best laid plans/intentions. |
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30's..I think that is a good age. I don't think having a kid at 30 is old..that is crazy of people think so. Ideally I'd like to get married at 30
then maybe have a kid around 32ish and then another around 34/35. But I do have a cut off for myself..if I am not married by 35 I don't care what
happens..I will not be having a kid when I am 40..it's just not something I want to do, I probably won't even get married at that point b/c if I am
still single in my mid 30's I will have given up entirely on men at that point anyway Quick Reply
