insomniachollie wrote:
It's unfortunate, but it's a biological inequality that we just can't get around. You HAVE to give a woman final say over a pregnancy because she's the one who's either going to have to go through it and give bith or go through a medical procedure to end the pregnancy. Not to mention that if Dad changes his mind about fatherhood 8 months into the pregnancy, he's going to have a much easier time walking away. It sucks that it has to be like that, but that's what it is. To start trying to give men equal say is to get into really dodgy territory over bodily autonomy - what happens when there's a stalemate between Mum and Dad? You can't let Dad's wishes outrank hers and force her to go through a pregnancy or an abortion, that'd be barbaric.

But you can't balance that out by allowing Dad to pretend he doesn't have a kid, and it's utterly unfair on the resulting child for fathers to be able to eschew all responsibility because he disagreed with the mother over keeping it. It takes two to tango and although during pregnancy it's unavoidable that Mum gets the most responsibility and therefore the most say in things, we shouldn't fix that by making it the opposite after the kid's born.

Well said.