Speaking as someone who got pregnant within my marriage (though it was unplanned, abortion wasn't even a consideration), then was later divorced and have custody of my daughter, life for me would be a helluva lot easier if he'd just sign away his rights. My daughter is 4 now and we haven't been together in over 3yrs, but he still yo-yo's her around, taking advantage of his visitation when he wants to play daddy, paying child support when he feels like it (but now it's steady as he's active military), and when he isn't paying, he doesn't want to see her. It's a ridiculous cycle that ultimately leaves my daughter confused and unhappy, especially when he's supposed to be there but isn't. I wish to God he would just walk away and keep walking, but sadly, he won't. Some men are simply selfish, as are some women. I agree that this is a double standard against men, but that said, as other posters have mentioned- if you don't want kids, make sure you're protected against pregnancy. I was on the pill when I got pregnant, but condoms are 97% effective when used CORRECTLY, so if your girl's on the pill, strap up anyway. If an accident happens, suck it the fuck up. You knew the risks going in.