oldbiewankanobi wrote:
I He told her he wasn't ready emotionally and financially to care for a child at that point in his life -- he needed to go to university and all that...
And he's stuck with this stigma of being a deadbeat dad and I don't think that's entirely fair...
Yes, accidents happen, but if it takes 2 people to procreate, then those same 2 people need to mutually agree on the decision to keep, abort, or give the baby away for adoption. It's not fair for just the woman to make the decision.


He didn't need to go to university, he wanted to. Pregnancy is a possibility when you have heterosexual sex, that is reality, if you aren't willing to deal with that as a possible consequence, then you shouldn't be having sex.
As far as him being stigmatized, give me a break! He isn't walking around with a scarlet letter on his forehead. Anyone new he meets isn't going to know about the child unless he tells them.
The problem with your assertion that it "needs" to be a mutually agreed upon decision is that it can't be. The options are all very different. While it may not be fair, life isn't fair. Until men can get pregnant, until biology changes so that either person can get pregnant, it won't be an equal, or fair, situation.