My siblings are not listed to receive any money. We took care of my mom for about three years financially and physically as she lived in our house. My sister had the balls to say our coffee table was moms, she is actually shopping our house looking for things that "mom wanted her to have" it would be funny if it didn't leave me so mad.

With credit cards interest jumping through the roof taking the money from our retirement account was the cleanest way dispite the penalty. My brother seems like he will pay us back, but has admitted it will take a year before he can make his first payment. My sister just says "someday" as far as paying us back. My husbands concern is losing out on even more money if we don't play fair and them just stiffing us all together. Also as he pointed out my mom got a nice good bye, she is buried near our son and that is what really matters. I however feel screwed over, instead of feeling warm and fuzzy like I should