The part about her seeing everything as black and white is exactly how she is, and its funny you say that because the last time she dumped her boyfriend he told me that exact same thing. He pointed out that nothing is grey to her, there is no moderation of anything, its either all or nothing. I don't know enough to know if she's done any self-mutilating, but it wouldn't surprise me. Her life is constant chaos, I just wonder if she hides it better from her boyfriend during these "normal" phases. Or maybe even he just hides it because he already knows everyone thinks this girl is nuts. I don't know enough about these disorders, but there's something seriously wrong with her and I think it goes beyond her issues with her father.