Yeah I see that you can relate and I appreciate it.

My mom is like your parents. She comes from a family with 10 kids and came to the US from Europe when she was little and for her she sees it as trying to provide for us as much as possible.

My dad comes from a really dysfunctional family but they were really comfortable. He grew up in NY and CA (they had houses on both coasts) in a family that got everything so for him this is the way his parents did things and he does them the same way.