taradise wrote:
RoswellStacy636 wrote:
Both my grandmas had Alzheimers...and I helped take care of one of them for 8 years. It's such an awful process to watch and be present for. However, know that being present for them is SO important. My family believes that if we put my grandma in a home, she wouldn't have lived even a year. The fact that you can share laughter is amazing...and even though he can't remember your name, you're positively impacting his life. That's something that he'll remember in his soul, even when he can't remember it in his mind.
It's nice to see someboday that understands...it's so scary to put him in a home. He's going to have to go there in the next year because I can't handle it and neither can my mom - I need to move on with my life and so does she. It's just hard because I don't want him to go someplace that will just sedate him in order to not have any problems...you know?


I know exactly what you mean. We originally looked into putting my grandma into a home, but we decided to take care of her because we were able to. Looking back, I now understand the burden my parents carried by having to take care of her...and I also understand how proud they are of their decision to take care of her. Seems like a double-edged sword sometimes. Just do your research on the homes and visit him every chance you get. And never feel guilty about having to put him in a home. It seems like people automatically want you to put them in a home and don't understand why you'd want to take care of them... or they don't understand how you could possibly leave them in a home. Do the best you can and no one can judge you for it.