Sassy Nation wrote:
Change your location or time. Have your shower a couple hours early instead. And have it somewhere else. that way when they show up, you won't be there.

and there's no confrontation. If they weren't invited then you don't have to tell them the changes you made.

do it on the down low.


then you have deniablity..."Oh I didn't know you wanted to come"



1. This is her future FIL, not some dude she'll never see again. All this subterfuge you're suggesting will come to light eventually, so do you really think that will bode well for their relationship?

2. She shouldn't have to change anything, it's her shower. HE should know better than to invite himself to an event that I'm sure he knows is traditionally only for women (side note: it's weird that he'd even WANT to come to a baby shower; most straight men I know can't get away from those things fast enough).