MLE 6 wrote:
WarmFuzzies19 wrote:
OP, I get it--it sounds weird to us but she's your best friend and you know her, we don't. I would probably feel defensive too. Anyway, I think it's nice you're going above and beyond what brides usually do. I feel like way too much is often asked of bridesmaids with way too little gratitude.



$10 is above and beyond? I got my bridesmaids a room at the hotel where we had our after party and brunch the next day. I don't feel like people have to do that but I wasn't criticizing because I feel the OP is going above and beyond.
My comment about going above and beyond had nothing to do with anyone's response to her.  My first comment about understanding why she's defensive of her best friend did, but the second part was more like "oh and by the way, it's nice to see a wedding advice post that isn't a bridesmaid complaining about a bridezilla for once."  By above and beyond I didn't mean the money she's spending, because I know nothing about her financial situation, but just the fact that she's putting thought into trying to do something nice.  I'm sure most brides are like that, but you hear so much about the ones who act like being in their wedding is some gift in and of itself, not recognizing that actual time and money goes into being a bridesmaid.