Wow not trying to be her bff.  I just toss shit in there so she won't feel out of place all the time. Hell, I thought I was being nice.  I was never trying to talk directly to her.  If anyone would read back, I was asking ABOUT TALKING TO HIM.  Damn!!!!  Hell, I didn't think anything was wrong with doing little shit as long as I wasn't asking her personal information.  The only reason I asked advice on this is because it can be dangerous.  I know the background crap is because he sounds off sometimes, not because I've been nosy.  But whatever.  If I'm doing damage by giving her old art supplies and ground turkey or showing her how to de-bone a chicken thigh, then my bad!!!!