Ugh, this is so messy. I would love to have a frank and open discussion about marriage with him but I want a proposal to come from the heart, not because, 'Shit, your dad's coming, we need a bigger place to live and we're not married,' ya know? Plus, as I said, it adds another emotional weight.

It just occurred to me my sibs both bought houses before they were officially married. I guess I can see from them what types of things I need to take into consideration.