Yeah, you need to get on him for child and spousal support ASAP because he's going to be responsible for both. I don't know about legal aid where you live. I know where I am, I made $24k last year and that was "too much" to qualify so I had to pay for a lawyer myself. And then I lost my job...so I understand your FML.

That being said, my ex also left when my daughter was a newborn and I was a wreck for several months so I know how it feels. My ex never came back either so I've been raising my daughter alone since birth. We weren't married though or have any other children so I can only imagine what you must feel like. But be positive. It WILL work out. I have a beautiful 16 month old now who is the love of my life and honestly, probably way better off without the deadbeat around the house.