makesJCadjustHisbuttonfly wrote:
It really is over. He's unwilling to work on anything. Typical of him to take the easy way out. I was going today to apply for that job but my best friend backed out saying she was sick and my only other choice was my mother and as soon as she got here they had to turn right back around to go home because she was too dizzy to watch him. Evidently it came on while driving. Whatever. I'm so over this shit. I'm ready for something positive to happen or come out of this but I don't see anything yet. I don't even know if I can apply for government aid since I have no job since we aren't divorced yet. We didn't qualify before but he's not living here now. I don't know how we are going to handle the bills right now. Ugh FML
You need to consult a lawyer to get stuff in place for the financial aspects- if he's truly checked out, then child support needs to start happening as fast as the courts allow or a lawyer can agree upon. I would bet he expects you to sit back and not make any fast moves because he thinks you're sitting back stunned. Of course you're stunned but you have four children to worry about and you're the mother. You'd go through hell for them. First of all, just because he left doesn't mean he's forfeit responsibility financially from you or his children. Also, I wouldn't make it so easy on him to not take the kids when you need time. Tell him, "You get the kids X." And let him have the baby for a few hours by himself with three other kids. Don't make it easy on him & let him see the decision he's decided on. He doesn't get to make such a big decision and end up living the life of a single man. I feel completely horrible for you because this is just shitty of someone who you thought cared about you to do. I watched my Aunt go through this and just know- you WILL make it out okay.