Wow. I am SO sorry this happened to you. It's always hard to lose a friend like this. Like some people have previously said, this girl is not a good person and seems to have little to no respect for you, your property or her own self, really. (If she did, she wouldn't be a liar/thief/someone who can't take responsibility for her own actions, i.e. turning it back on you, which is, pardon my French, a REALLY shitty thing to do). I must applaud you for being so young and having such a good head on your shoulders to give her the benefit and handling it so maturely. I do not/did not know too many people your own age that would.

I also find myself in a similar situation as yours. I'm not going to go into detail because I have brought it up before on here and was basically blown off, but suffice to say, my former friend was very nasty/immature about it, in spite of having a child herself and was supposedly forced to grow up from it, and proceeded to try and tell me who I am and try to blame me for her problems. I have not spoken to her in almost a year and am dreading the prospect of possibly seeing her at our friend's baby shower in March (they talk, or my other friend tries to connect to her while the ex-friend blows her off).

I know it hurts, love, but let her go. I hate having to tell you that and I don't mean to tell you so lightly since you guys had been knowing each other your whole lives, but you guys have grown apart. You grew up and she didn't. I would not even give her (or allow your male friend to, either) the satisfaction of trying to reconnect; she seems manipulative in addition to everything else and is most likely to play head games all over again.

It's like what my other friend has said to me about my situation that I'll say to you; there's big, empty, black hole where she used to be and she seems content on staying in there. Don't let her suck you in, though. She sees things in you that infuriates her and she needs you to feel like she does. The old saying of "Misery loves company" still rings true.

I hope everything works out, Lillies. hugs3