insomniachollie wrote:
We have no control on how people choose to act. All we can do is control our reactions.


I have found myself having to remember this a lot when it comes to friendship breakdowns/people you fell out with still talking about you/ he-said-she-said etc.

A lot of the time we make things harder on ourselves trying to control the uncontrollable or torturing ourselves over it. It's much easier said than done to ignore it and get on with your own stuff but worth doing.
It's so hard to remember this. I have literally not spoken to or of my former friend to anyone that we are both acquaintances with. I know I can't control what she's spewing to other people but it's frustrating to see it on say facebook. I'll take the high road, I could call her out on all her shit and I just really want to tell her to keep anything relating to me out of her mouth, forget you knew me if that helps.