Lillies In Bloom wrote:

JJB, WHYYYYYYYYY would she ask about me? Why is she wondering what I'm doing, if she didn't care to be my friend ? Why would she even ask, when she blocked me for no apparent reason recently? She blocked me 2-3 months after we never talked. I never called or texted her again. I don't ever in my life want to be her friend. I actually hope the day comes that she tries to reconnect with me when we're much more mature, because I will gladly curse her out. 


I feel like I have this grudge weighing over me JJB. When I think about it (which is still often), it's almost like it happened  yesterday. It doesn't help that she's still pulling shannigans like blocking me. How can I get over this? I have other friends, but this was my longest friendship. I really though we'd be in each other's weddings and whatnot as adults. Sigh.


I have a lifelong friend who pretty much cut me out of her life... with no events to trigger such action and any information, and explanation was never given to me.  She refused to acknowledge me... to respond to any emails, letters, texts, IMs.  I could not get any sense of closure from her... and ultimately, I never will (its been... gosh, 7 years now).  It took a long time for me to give myself permission to be okay with this situation and that any closure would have to come from that.  We have been in situations where we bumped into each other (lots of mutual friends)... and she's really weird about it.  Either she acts all sweet, "besty" again or she takes whatever subtle potshots and jabs she can.  I don't say anything to her because... well, I would end up ripping her head off and ultimately I do not want to go down that route again where if we do befriend each other, she just jerk me out like that again.  Like one poster mentioned before, with her gone, I was able to look back and realize that she really wasn't that great a friend that I thought she was.  I did realize, in a lot of ways, I was her cushion and her punching bag.

Weirdly enough... she still does talk about me (though very badly because she wants everyone to know I'm this "evil mind control freak") and asks about me.  But she wants absolutely no contact with me... what she wants is people who will talk badly about me and give her the gossip.  I do know she needs to feel that she's doing better than me, and that's why she asks about me.  But now because I made a new circle of friends and don't really have anything to do with the old one... she really doesn't have anything on me.  I prefer it that way now.

You'll just have to accept the fact the only closure is one that you'll give yourself... and that if you befriend her again and she pulls the same stunt again, it's on you.  Because that's all it is, you playing yourself into believing she was something else than what she's shown herself to be.

Edited By: JCcai 01/14/2012 12:57 AM. Edited 2 times.