Oh dear. Okay, where to start. Your long story deserves a long answer!

The first thing I have to say, is that I have been in a VERY similar situation as you. I had a very close friend whose family acted as my surrogate family throughout college. We went to school together, and she was from the area while I was from 1000 miles away. I used to stay with her and her family near every other weekend. I taught her little sister how to drive, and her grandmother even called me her "other granddaughter". The friends that she grew up with became my friends. This past year, we had a falling out and are no longer friends. The relationship that two women can have as best friends is like sisters. You can have your issues from time to time, but you always assume that everything will be fine. And when it isn't, its devastating.

To begin, obviously this is an odd situation since it started over something so...seemingly trivial? Your property is your property, whether it was a bag of clothes or something else. Obviously it is a given to you that she should respect your property. So when she did something so obviously wrong, it threw you for a loop. I have a feeling that she just started wearing your clothes, not really thinking about how it would be a problem, but then realized that you would realize what she has done. Which is probably why she offered you such a significant amount of money for them. If you had accepted the money, you would of both been out of the situation. Am I saying you should of without an explanation? Not necessarily, but she would of been "off the hook" and you would of gotten money to replace some of the clothes. And the situation would of been over. However, you wouldn't of gotten an explanation for what happened to your clothes.

In my opinion, she knew she did something wrong, but couldn't own up to it. She thought that she could get out of it, but you kept pushing to get an answer, which you were owed. However, she kept on giving you excuses, and the problem was dragged out for so much time, that she turned the tables on you. What SHE did was wrong. But she was acting as if you were the one that caused the problem. And that is wrong, and she knows it.

It is also probably really embarrassing for her to have to deal with. I mean really, it was a bag of clothes. And she definitely wore them. And she knows you know. She was a horrible friend. She wasn't there for you, all because she couldn't own up to something she did. If she had been straight with you, this would of never of happened.

I'm sure the reason that she asks about you is because she still cares. You were a big part of her life. However, in order to be your friend again, she would have to own up to what she did. And owning up to something that is in reality, a trivial thing, is tough. But she doesn't have the guts to do it.

She treated you wrong. She wasn't a good friend. Also, sometimes when you are friends for so long, people change. And she seems to have changed a lot. You sound like a loyal person, and deserve a lot better. The end of a friendship needs time to mourn, so don't feel like your feelings aren't justified. Just understand that she is a coward for not being able to be straight with you, and for blocking you on Facebook. You are better off without her.

GAH! Long response to your long story. But I do hope you are able to make peace with it and move on.