BUT, we've never really even kissed. He touches me all the time, in a tease-you kind of way like rubbing your thigh or brushing against your ass, but he will not give me an "open mouth" kiss (closed mouth is ok). I make fun of him for it, and he says it's because he knows it would be game over if he really kissed me and he'd go all the way. He says he's scared of me, and talks about me as if I am some kind of witch, with a "strange power" over him. When I tell him he seems bored with his relationship and "over it," he agrees but doesn't seem to have any plans to leave it. In fact, he asks for my "secrecy" and talks about all he would "lose" if he went too far with me (which I think he already has...) He seems in a constant moral/psychological conflict. He is religious.


It's your fault, you're some siren with strange powers and he's helpless even though he has been the one who very actively persued you from the get go. It's okay if he pretty much stomps all over his relationship so long as he doesn't slip the tongue in, and if he totally messes you around in the process. Pull the other one - this is not a man in moral crisis. This is a douchebag playing the best of both worlds who has no intention of ending it with his girlfriend. Kick his ass to the curb and find a guy who actually respects you.

Sorry to be blunt, but this is is the kind of situation where everybody except the girl actually caught in it and about to get her feelings hurt can see that the guy's an ass. You can sit there and attempt to rationalise it all you want, but this is simply not the behaviour of somebody honest and trustworthy. It's a bunch of mind games and you ought to value yourself enough to stop putting up with it. 

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