madonna1216 wrote:
Had a falling out YEARS ago and I miss her. I tried to get in touch with her and she ignored my request. Should I keep trying or let bygones be bygones? There was no dram. I was going through personal issues, didn't know how to deal and fell off the face of the earth. As the years went by I became more and more embarrassed about the situation, now I just want to talk to her:(
I've been your ex-BFF. Can't begin to describe how badly it hurts when somebody who's supposed to be your best friend in the world buggers off one day and stops calling, answering messages or apparently even caring if you're alive or in a ditch somewhere. I had been there for her through everything and I was repaid with being abandoned, right when I really needed her. It still really upsets me remembering it. Years later she tried getting in touch out of the blue and cited the same reason you have, even seeing her name in the subject line felt like being sucker punched. I did exactly what your former BFF has done - refused to respond. Would you really want to invite a person who hurt you that badly and proved themselves to be so unreliable back into your life?

That might sound like I'm saying you're some evil terrible person here, but that's not what I mean. People make mistakes and you sound like you genuinely regret it. I'm just trying to offer the other side of the story - no matter how embarrassed you may be and how much you'd like to make it right, when you hurt somebody that badly sometimes there's no going back. You've done what you can in reaching out and offering contact, but you should respect her decision in regards to whether or not she wants to reply rather than continuing to push. If she doesn't want to talk to you... at least you tried.