FallenAngelFound wrote:
I guess we'll have to just agree to disagree

It just surprises me that so many people are saying to stay out of it, especially when she said this is her friend. Seems like everyone is more worried about potentially rocking the boat at work and the impact it would have on themselves than the priority of being a good friend and preventing someone at work from spreading malicious rumors about others. Every man for him/herself I guess. But that does explain why people, in general, seem to be so self-centered in the workplace and why there is no sense of teamwork and camaraderie anymore. It's hard to think of the thoughts, feelings, and impact on others when all you're worried about is yourself.
This has nothing to do with teamwork. Do you work in an office setting? It's MISERABLE to go to work every day if people are fighting and there is drama everywhere. It's better NOT to stir the pot. The place of business is first and foremost where you go to earn a living. You have to be there every day, so why create unnecessary drama? It's not worth it. This guy has never done ONE thing to show the OP that he is in fact racist. If he did, then she wouldn't have gotten so close to him. Sometimes you need to trust your own judgment, and the OP obviously thinks the guy is a nice guy. If it is true, that sucks, and the OP will find out on her own in time. Then she can choose whether or not to continue a friendship. You can't trust people, especially people that you already know are known to be a shit-stirrer.