This is the second time he's been deployed, so we're "used to it", in a sense. I just think it was incredibly shitty of her. And I know she talks shit about me to his girlfriend. (I guess she'd see it as venting). We don't get along all that well anyway but as far as sharing a friend with her goes, she's just rude. I don't force her into ending conversations so I can start my own. Ever.