you still haven't answered the question of where his money is going. if he's in a "hole" how did he get in that hole? $1000/mo is quite a bit to be going to something OTHER than household bills. Was he spending all his paycheck on car repairs?

and i don't understand why your parents, who don't believe in living together before marriage, would allow your ex to live in their home after you broke up? there is a lot you are not sharing on this story. smiley: indifferent 

best of luck to you.