how can I stop doing stuff for him when he depends on me to get him to work? I'm having a hard time trying to make life easier for him but not turning into a mother.
I FEEL like a mother sometimes and I hate that feeling that people get when they feel like they are doing way too much and the other person isn't.

I hate that I imposed a "curfew", but it wasn't meant to be like that, it was more, I don't want to have to get up at 4am in the morning to a drunk him to let him in to the apartment because I know I will be furious.