bonjoviroxmysox wrote:

Spin off question: what if you started liking someone and had no idea they were taken until you already fell for 'em? Hypothetically speaking, of course Not asking if that's worth bragging about, but is that "better"?

If you already have invested feelings for someone, and you have "no idea" they were married, then you obviously don't know much about them There is just no way around liking someone/having feelings for a man who isn't available. No one will think it's okay. That's just something you should keep to yourself. But saying that someone is attractive in passing conversation is a whole different ballgame. I don't think there's anything wrong with that.