BIGGER UPDATE!!!


My parents and i talked an hour ago when they came back from my aunt's. Like i thought, they already knew all this time. I had been holding out because it was my Mom's bday week last week AND they are going on vacation next week for 2 weeks. I was not about to unload all that drama on them for them to think about when they're supposed to be having a good time.

Anyway, while they were there, my aunt, at one point, tried to bring up how ungrateful my sibs and i were but my parents firmly told her that they will hear none of that. That shut her up. Accdg to them, , they have spoken individually and together with my aunt. They told her that their kids are adults and they know what is right and what is wrong and can speak their minds and make decisions on their own. They said her beef with any of us is her beef with us and she'll just have to deal. They also told her that their kids are not hypocrites and that none of their kids will EVER apologize for doing the right thing or for standing up for their family and for that, they are proud of us.claps1bananacheer

Let me just clear something, now that my cousin has been stepping up to the plate, my Dad really has been home more now. My cousin even has apologized for other stuff and that's very big of him. Today, my father acknowledges his time spent with her and her needs, her childish neediness as well and his part in this and said that he talked to her about gaining more independence, finding her bliss, finding friends that are NOT her employees, and needing to learn that she is not the center of the universe. My mom told her that we, esp me, were just looking out for my mom and my mom loves us more for that. My father is slowly cutting the cord and that's great and he told me just to give her time and patience.

They said she argued with them but they remained firm. It remained cordial enough that they all went to dinner.

My father hugged me and told me he knew i was trying to do the right thing and should've told me sooner that he was just waiting, trying to see if she'll get better. He told her she needs to re-consider the antidepressants her doctor had suggested. He told her she is ostracizing everyone she loves one by one and sooner or later, she'll die alone, unloved and bitter.

Hopefully, she'll take what my Dad said to heart. I would really hate for her to get worse because it's sooo bad already. I'll just have to cross my fingers and keep her in my prayers.

Edited By: javajoint 11/13/2010 9:56 PM. Edited 1 times.