thanks for your replies, everyone. I am vacillating between mailing my response(just saying that i read her letter and that we need to discuss everything with her therapist) and just ignoring it completely. Since she is family and won't go away, i know i can't just ignore it, .

I've told her many times that she needs to get out more and be more adventurous. Heck, if i had money like her, every chance i get, i'd be travelling. I keep on telling her that she needs to reward herself for working so hard.

As for friends, she has only one good one and she doesn't live in her town. She has very friendly acquaintances who i know, having lived there at one point but none of them you can call friends because of her caustic tongue, . Who wants to hang out with someone so critical? I mean, we're family so we put up with it but of course, those that aren't related to her don't have to, .