Drama queen indeed. The only one that can decide whether your dad continues to help her out is your dad. You can’t speak for him. If he continues to go down there every time she sneezes, then shame on him. Maybe your mother can put her foot down with her sister in law?

Is she paying him to come to her home and help her out? Maybe there is a benefit for all the schlepping ‘cross country for your dad. You had said before that she has helped your family out in the past, I just wondered if money was still changing hands. Does he feel indebted to her?

When your dad is fed up, he should be the one to tell her, although seeing how your aunt reacts, it will most def. cause a strain in the relationship. It might be better coming from your mom.