Best of luck to you 
! I hope everything works out and i'm sure sure you'll be much happier
! I hope everything works out and i'm sure sure you'll be much happier
I'm going to leave my husband
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Posts: 832 (07/05/2009 12:22 PM) |
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hithisisnotyou |
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Posts: 197 (07/05/2009 12:26 PM) |
I may have to go to counseling anyhow because of all this. My doctor has already put me on antidepressants and referred me to a psychiatrist. I thought that I
was having issues with myself because I wasn't interested in sex with my husband. But I come to learn that I'm depressed, and the way he treats me, why
would I want to have sex with a man who calls me names and yells at me all the time for nothing?
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Samantha James |
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Posts: 14559 (07/05/2009 12:29 PM) |
 I'm sorry. 
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thedon03 |
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Posts: 13781 (07/05/2009 1:40 PM) |
I'm so sorry you're going through this hithisisnotyou. But good for you for recognizing a bad situation for what it is, and making the decision to
leave. Unfortunately too many people stay in denial and spend yrs and yrs in abusive relationships and I'm sure you'll come out of this stronger than
ever.
If you want, I can give you PM a link to this one website that I think will help you in understanding/dealing people with those kinds of behvaior and why it isn't your fault. Hope I worded that well. Stay strong girl. |
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hithisisnotyou |
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Posts: 198 (07/05/2009 1:44 PM) |
thedon03 wrote: That would be great, thank you! It doesn't help that my husband has severe ADHD too. Which I thought was part of the reason that he is the way he is. Plus I still think he has issues from when he was in Iraq in 2005. I know that it doesn't make what he does any better. |
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Posts: 6477 (07/05/2009 1:48 PM) |
hithisisnotyou wrote:NO you don't. Sitting alone at night not knowing where he is or when or if he's coming home and in what state he will be when he does, isn't a walk in the park either. |
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Posts: 3941 (07/05/2009 2:02 PM) |
You're smart to realise this now, rather than later. Best of luck to you!
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Posts: 686 (07/05/2009 2:06 PM) |
Best of luck to you. Divorce isn't an easy thing but in the end you will be so much happier.
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NancyOttawa |
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Posts: 6478 (07/05/2009 2:07 PM) |
Oh and I ran into my ex at one of our high school reunions. He approached me and was stuttering and stammering and I knew was probably going to apologize but I
told him "Save it!" and walked away. Too little, too late. It felt goooood!!
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Posts: 15085 (07/05/2009 2:09 PM) |
hithisisnotyou wrote:#1) I think that would be a very good idea. #2) I went through the EXACT same thing (minus being put on antidepressants). I thought there was something wrong with *me* and thought I was depressed (which, looking back, I probably was) ..... I didn't wnt to admit to myself that I wasn't interested in my husband anymore. After the lightbult came on, so to speak, I realized it really wasn't me. It was the totality of the circumstances. |
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NancyOttawa |
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Posts: 6482 (07/05/2009 2:25 PM) |
I got very depressed during my marriage to my louse also. Lost so much weight that I looked like a skeleton. After I walked out I went through another couple
of months of feeling down but that slowly just melted away. I moved back to Canada, got a fantastic job, started going out more, bought myself a fabulous new
wardrobe as my clothes were too big on me, and before long I had made friends and was dating again. I never looked back.
Hang in there... the same will happen for you and counselling is such a fantastic idea because your self-esteem has obviously taken a beating! |
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KobesPrincess1982 |
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Posts: 3084 (07/05/2009 2:53 PM) |
Good luck! You can do it!
I was married for a year and a half to a verbally and emotionally abusive man (although I didn't realize that it was abuse until after the fact) until he kicked me out almost a year ago. He just didn't know that when he kicked me out, I was actually not going to come back. It was hard. I cried on JJB A LOT, you can probably still find my old threads and I STILL have really hard days (not because of missing him. I never want to see/hear/talk to him again but because the whole thing) but its been a year at the end of this month and I am SO much better off. I'm not exactly where I wanted to be (still at my parents house...) but I'm getting there. You can do it! Hang in there! Oh and quickly, the counseling thing will help a ton! ' |
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hithisisnotyou |
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Posts: 199 (07/05/2009 3:05 PM) |
Thank you everyone for all your kind words and support. It really does mean a lot. I'm dreading him coming home from work... I really don't want to
face him right now. I haven't told him of my plans and I'm not going to until I figure out what exactly I'm doing.
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