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JCPC42 wrote:

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I know it's my perception. I want to be honest with them. But my honesty always gets me in trouble. That's why I said things like infer and imply, and put things in quotes.
It's not 'honesty' that is 'getting you in trouble'. You're way, way, way too overly sensitive, and feel compelled to 'be honest' (ie. rude and whiny) when someone says or does something insensitive. Your 'honesty' is very specific.

I do my work well, I just hate being questioned about it. And I don't like starting fights either, so you saying I just want to report her and get her in trouble is not 100 percent true--as much as I dislike her. Arguments and criticism makes me stressed. I know that serving isn't the right job for me, it's easier to stay in the same place until I graduate college. And it sucks, when, after working there for so long, they still don't care about you.
Whose opinion is it that you do your work well? Maybe instead of dictating how others should perceive your work habits by referring to your own opinion, you could try asking for comments and criticism openly, which would allow for more open communication. And anyone that "hates being questioned" usually does not have the right to not be questioned. You are only a server. If your superior things you are doing something wrong, he or she is permitted to act or speak as they see fit. You are not being abused in any way, with respect to what you have explained.

You are confusing you're 'loyalty' with the company with something that truly deserves reward. You said yourself you are staying at the company for personal benefit (ie. because it's easier for you to stay than find a new job and start from scratch). No offence, but although serving is difficult, there are hundreds of people out there who could take your job. And, by the sound of it, some of them may perform in a more efficient and much less unstable manner, including not being overly sensitive to and cynical of every action and utterance of your superior who is just trying to see to the success of the restaurant.

So, do you think that the manager is handling this well? She is just rude all the time, not even to me. she says something along the lines to another server, "Don't you have eyes, the apple juice is right there? Why are you yelling about it so much and going crazy"
Do you think you are handling this well? Regardless, you sure come off as not seeing anything wrong with your behavior. And if numerous people can sense that over the internet, one can only imagine how you come off in person with your facial expressions, tone, and body language.

Although these comments may be considered rude, some may choose to take the high road and ignore the comments, or look for the underlying message behind the comments and find ways to improve. If you have this much trouble with serving jobs, I sure hope you're mentally preparing for the real world once you're finished school. It's not all rainbows and kittens and cater-to-you communication because you're overly sensitive and get stressed in a variety of situations, without adequate coping mechanisms.