Do you have to drag them to stuff with you, or do the make an effort to innititate things?
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towerOVERme |
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Posts: 2012 (06/29/2009 12:48 AM) |
Does your BF or GF show interest in the things that you enjoy, even if they might not enjoy those things themselves? For example, I have been seriously into
music my entire life and I go to a pretty big amount of concerts every year. I have taken my boyfriend to see his favorite band twice in the past year and he
has never been to a concert with me of a band that *I* like. (Just an example)
Do you have to drag them to stuff with you, or do the make an effort to innititate things? |
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Certainly Not Dcutie |
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Posts: 16245 (06/29/2009 12:49 AM) |
We love all the same stuff. It's nice.
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AudaciousAudrey |
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Posts: 27120 (06/29/2009 12:49 AM) Biggest Know It All '09
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Yes, he is very good at that. I'm not as good at it.
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blairboy |
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Posts: 34015 (06/29/2009 12:50 AM)
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We try to take an interest in each other's hobbies, but we also know that we're not REALLY into it. We've been together long enough where it's
not a big deal anymore.
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makesJCadjustHisbuttonfly |
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Posts: 15891 (06/29/2009 12:51 AM) |
When we were dating my husband went to see Spice Girls and Nsync with me in concert. I've gone to car races with him. Neither one of us has a problem going
to do something the other wants to do.
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Posts: 2045 (06/29/2009 12:51 AM) |
AudaciousAudrey wrote:This is me. But I am working at it. |
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Hard Rock Dazzles |
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Posts: 3128 (06/29/2009 12:51 AM) |
We don't "drag" each other anywhere, but we do both do things the other is interested in even if we're not. I go golfing with him, he read
and saw Twilight - which I am so sorry I made him do, cause I'm never going to be forgiven. Music is a big thing, because we both feel very strongly about
the music we like, and we spend a lot of time just listening to music. We listen to each other's favorites, and that's how we've both become fans
of artists we probably never would have bothered with. So yeah, we both initiate. I draw the line at camping though.
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sweetrachel04 |
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Posts: 2273 (06/29/2009 12:52 AM) |
He is not good at it AT ALL and it's a problem.
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blairboy |
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Posts: 34016 (06/29/2009 12:53 AM)
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AudaciousAudrey |
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Posts: 27121 (06/29/2009 12:53 AM) Biggest Know It All '09
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Yea I've been begging my bf to take me camping.
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kelli wk |
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Posts: 17813 (06/29/2009 12:54 AM) |
we try. I'll go to hockey games and play video games with him, and he will tolerate some stuff I like.
he absolutely refuses to go shopping with me though. it makes him angry. |
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mEEEEchelle |
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Posts: 3937 (06/29/2009 12:54 AM) |
My ex forced me to watch a lot of football, so I forced him to watch a lot of The Tudors. Does that count?
I actually ended up loving football. Can't wait for the next season! |
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orangepeel19 |
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Posts: 12103 (06/29/2009 12:54 AM) Friendliest JJBer '09
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I had to drag mine into a comic book shop. They bitched for half of it but it wasn't too bad <3
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ILUVBubbleGUM |
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Posts: 980 (06/29/2009 12:54 AM) |
yeah not gonna lie i have a hard time convincing him to do things i want to do (that he doesn't like). like if my one of my girl friends is having a party
and i want him to come along, he will refuse up and down and say "i'll meet you afterwards".
whereas if he and his buddies are hanging out and invite me, i always go even though i don't really want to hang out with his dumb friends. lol buuut i did convince him to watch the notebook altho i think he secretly wanted to see it so don't know if that counts lol |
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Mistress Darcy |
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Posts: 9915 (06/29/2009 12:55 AM) |
blairboy wrote:Same here. |
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blairboy |
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Posts: 34017 (06/29/2009 12:56 AM)
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orangepeel19 wrote: Comics! He doesn't mine, he checks out the guys while I'm in there.
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Hard Rock Dazzles |
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Posts: 3129 (06/29/2009 12:59 AM) |
Everything, Dennis. I can't camp. Every part of me rejects every part of it.
Look what this fool thinks we're doing: TRAIL NOTES: Half of your walk is along the Lake Road. From the visitor's parking area walk 0.7 mile to the inn, 0.25 to the gate, and 0.7 to the Henry Goddard Leach Trail turnoff, and another 0.5 to the bridge over Gill Brook. Shortly beyond, at 2.15 miles, there is a right fork leading close to the flume on Gill Brook. This trail rejoins the road in 0.2 mile and you certainly want to make the side trip to view this dark, hemlock-covered flume.The next intersection, a left turn at 2.7 miles is the beginning of the official Gill Brook Trail. Unless you pause at the flume, the walk so far takes an hour. Gill Brook Trail follows the brook quite closely, occasionally winding away briefly but returning to allow many waterfalls views ... In 20 you reach a V-shaped falls sheltered in a little gorge where rock walls create a beautiful deep glen; One of these trails was named Artist's Falls ... Upstream, water chutes down a lovely slide, sparkling the rock surface to make another falls. The trail pulls away from the brook briefly before returning to another falls. Climbing moderately beside the brook you reach a long narrow chute that pours over square ledges. Upstream a lovely slide, then another falls over square rocks, before the trail pulls away from Gill Brook. Finally, at 1.3 miles, you reach an intersection, not obvious in this direction because the Bypass Trail makes an acute angle back right. One hundred yards beyond the intersection with the Bypass Trail, you reach a second intersection marked Indian Head either way. (The way right is a second possible return route via Indian Head trail.) For this hike, stay left or straight and immediately cross a tributary of Gill Brook. The cliffs on Dial Mountain are visible through the trees. The trail starts steeply through an area with lots of trailwork and stairs and blowdown and climbs to a ridge way above Gill Brook -- 15 minutes and 0.5 mile later, at 1.8 miles you reach a third intersection and the return route for this hike. Turn right on this trail leading to Fish Hawk Cliffs and Indian Head. This section features a great overlook of the Ausable Lakes, the Great Range, and the face on Indian Head. From the Gill Brook Trail, climb slightly and cross a small stream in 0.45 mile, 10 minutes. You cross the AMR boundary on level land, just before cresting a hill. The trail heads up slightly, to the ledges on top of Fish Hawk Cliffs. Slides make identifying slashes on the famous Great Range peaks. A lower ledge offers the best view of Indian Head. Descend slightly, heading north from the top of Fish Hawk Cliffs, 0.25 mile and eight minutes from Indian Head. Traverse in deep woods in a col, not far from a pool known as Wizard's Washbowl. Continue directly uphill, for a steep 160-foot climb to the top of the Indian's Head and the most wonderful views down the Ausable Lakes. Snowy and Vanderwhacker mountains mark the skyline beyond the deep lake cuts; Colvin and Sawteeth slope steeply into the Lower Lake. |
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towerOVERme |
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Posts: 2014 (06/29/2009 1:00 AM) |
Basically I had to bring this all up tonight and I think it went well, he says he is going to work on it... but we'll see. Actions speak MUCH louder than
words in this situation.
I mean, I drop hints about things I want to do ALL the time and he never makes it happen. I flat out ASK him to do things I wanna do and he'll make some excuse or just say "Ehhh I don't wanna do that, can't you go with your friends?" And yeah I can go with my friends (to concerts for example) and I usually DO, but it wouldn't kill him to come with me AT LEAST ONCE. I mean geez. I've done so many things to get involved in the things he likes. Like I said in the OP, I bought him DMB tickets twice in the past year and a half, once as a birthday gift. He had never even BEEN to a concert before those. I've bought him tickets to sporting events he wanted to go to as a surprise and took him. I see movies with him ALL the time that I really could care less to see... The thing is, I end up having fun, and I do not mind at all to do these kinds of things. I WANT to do those things. It just sucks that he is being selfish pretty much and only wants to do something if it's benefits him or it's something HE likes. |
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towerOVERme |
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Posts: 2015 (06/29/2009 1:02 AM) |
Also, I told him if he doesn't make an effort to know more about the things I'm into and do some of the things I've been saying I want to do, then
I'm done.
I mean, I've mentioned amusement parks, going to haunted houses in the fall, the pumpkin farm in October, fireworks tonight which he declined, waterparks, concerts, movies (and not always chick flicks either), etc. etc. etc. The list goes ON forever. |
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Alicia |
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Posts: 81757 (06/29/2009 1:02 AM) Funniest JJBer '04 |
I'll go camping with Josh!
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giadoe |
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Posts: 3391 (06/29/2009 1:03 AM) |
I dragged my husband to see Novelle Vague and Keane concerts last month, he was a bit grumpy in the beginning but he ended up becoming a huge fan and thanked
me for it. I asked him about NKOTB a few months ago though and he looked at me as if I'm crazy so I guess I can't exactly drag him all the time
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Comics! He doesn't mine, he checks out the guys while I'm in there.
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