Heather125 wrote:It sounds like your life revolves around your boyfriend. Why would you want to stay in a po-dunk of a town where you have no friends for the rest of your life?
Nah. I moved away last year so he could go to school and it was really hard on me.
I'm a homebody.
I'm also full of excuses. I need to get out of this stupid fucking funk. It's annoying the crap out of me.
I've been feeling really down lately...(vent)
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Posts: 2872 (06/28/2009 8:07 PM) |
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jus4lafs |
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Posts: 232 (06/28/2009 8:09 PM) |
Heather125 wrote: Where in Canada? |
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Heather125 |
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Posts: 16146 (06/28/2009 8:10 PM) |
Because I moved away from the town, still didn't make any friends (didn't help that I moved to a smaller town) and was miserable thinking about home
the whole time. I love my family and don't really like being away from them. Like I said, I'm a homebody. This town doesn't have much to offer but
it's home.
And I'll admit that. My life does revolve around him. Who else do I have for it to revolve around? If I had friends, I'd hang out with them, do stuff with them. But I don't. |
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Heather125 |
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Posts: 16147 (06/28/2009 8:10 PM) |
jus4lafs wrote: Nova Scotia! |
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Courtney Love1 |
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Posts: 6679 (06/28/2009 8:11 PM) |
I also have to ask: you say you've been with your boyfriend since you were 13 and a half.
What you want at age 13 in a mate is a huge difference between what you want (and need) in a mate at age 22. Are you sure that remaining in a relationship that started out when you where a child and remaining in a town that has extremely limited possibilities for personal growth is what you want to do? |
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nicksdolphin |
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Posts: 20309 (06/28/2009 8:12 PM) |
I graduated college & moved to a new place for a job & don't have any friends here that are not hitched with kids. I too work in a place where
I'm the youngest (24) & the next youngest person is 43! They are great acquaintances but I'd never hang with them.
I spend my time on the phone with my old friends from college that live in other places. I usually escape to the cities where my old friends live on the weekends so we can hang out. I like alone time though. But, I understand where you're coming from. There's no "lets meet for lunch during the week" here. |
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Heather125 |
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Posts: 16148 (06/28/2009 8:12 PM) |
I was 14 and a half and yes, I'm sure. Moving away is just not an option. I was miserable. I would be miserable if I moved to the city.
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DoesThatSparkle |
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Posts: 2874 (06/28/2009 8:12 PM) |
Heather125 wrote:Umm yourself? You already stated what your problem is - you moved to an even smaller town. Of course its gonna be difficult to meet people in small ass little towns. It doesn't sound like you even want friends. I mean, in theory it sounds like you do...but in the end it seems like you aren't interested in bettering yourself. You just live your life for your boyfriend and I know it's your life, but that sounds like an awful way to live. |
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thread killer 00 |
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Posts: 3951 (06/28/2009 8:15 PM) |
How do you know that you would be miserable if you moved to this city, Heather? Your family would be 3 hours away, you could definitely see them on weekends.
When I moved here, I didn't know a single person but I made friends through meetup.com, and just from all the stuff that goes on here. There's a lot to do in the city and lots of people to meet. I think living in a small town is holding you back. |
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Courtney Love1 |
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Posts: 6680 (06/28/2009 8:16 PM) |
Okay, so essentially this is going to be one of those threads where the person says they have a problem and asks us all for help with the problem, but then
proceeds to say, "That sounds like a great solution, but here's why I can't possibly do that..." to every way posted to help solve the
problem.
Hmm. Okay then. |
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Heather125 |
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Posts: 16149 (06/28/2009 8:17 PM) |
Well, yeah, obviously myself. I mean...it's just us. We're like an old married couple. We don't do much. I wouldn't call it an awful way to
live but it's definitely not the way I thought my life would turn out.
And I definitely DO want friends. I want someone to gossip with, to talk with. I do that wth my sister and mother already but I want someone who ISN'T family...just a girlfriend! It's kind of sad when my inbox is all "(mother's name) has sent you a message on Facebook!" "(sister's name) has sent you a message on Facebook!" x 100000. |
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DoesThatSparkle |
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Posts: 2876 (06/28/2009 8:23 PM) |
Your life didn't turn out the way you want it because you live in a small ass town and have been dating the same guy since you were 14. It's time to
experience other things in the world...but that's just my opinion.
What happens when you and your bf break up? Then what the hell do you do? |
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Heather125 |
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Posts: 16150 (06/28/2009 8:23 PM) |
thread killer 00 wrote:Well, for starters, I don't really like it up there TBH. I'm just not a city person. This is my comfort zone, I guess. Okay, so essentially this is going to be one of those threads where the person says they have a problem and asks us all for help with the problem, but then proceeds to say, "That sounds like a great solution, but here's why I can't possibly do that..." to every way posted to help solve the problem. Well, like I said, most of the suggestions aren't available in my town. I'm looking at the gym's website as we speak to see if there are any classes I might be interested in. Other than that, this town sucks for stuff to do. |
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thread killer 00 |
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Posts: 3952 (06/28/2009 8:23 PM) |
Well if you're unhappy, do something about it. Otherwise, you'll have another 7.5 years of the same stuff, over and over again.
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Courtney Love1 |
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Posts: 6683 (06/28/2009 8:26 PM) |
How is 'start a social activity yourself and put up flyers around your town to advertise it' not available in your town?
Do they not have storefronts, grocery store ad boards and telephone poles there? Stop coming up with 20 different excuses as to why you CAN'T make a change and start coming up with just 1 way you CAN make a change. |
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Heather125 |
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Posts: 16151 (06/28/2009 8:27 PM) |
DoesThatSparkle wrote:Well, my boyfriend is the one thing in my life going good so that's not going to change. I just feel like if I had friends, there'd be more to do! I'm not a "going out" person and neither is he but if I had someone saying "Come out!" I would! And I have no idea what I'd do. I can't say I've thought about it. |
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Posts: 27109 (06/28/2009 8:29 PM) Biggest Know It All '09
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DoesThatSparkle wrote: 
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Heather125 |
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Posts: 16152 (06/28/2009 8:31 PM) |
Courtney Love1 wrote:Like? A book club? I don't like reading! I'm obviously not a leader, never have been, never will be. I'd rather go take a class than initiate one and like I said...I'm looking into it. It's just something that hasn't crossed my mind, taking a class. If I can actually FIND one, you can bet I'll be jumping on it! I'm a very negative person as you can tell. It's not a very "attractive" trait but it's who I am and how I've always been. I thank my mother for this. |
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Posts: 3486 (06/28/2009 8:33 PM) Favorite Newcomer '09
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City life FTW.
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Heather125 |
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Posts: 16153 (06/28/2009 8:33 PM) |
And it's not a tiny town, it's actually one of the bigger towns in the Province...there's just not much to do here.
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