Like right now I am missing my man like crazy, but things have been rough for us lately with life issues etc. He's an introvert, while I'm an extrovert etc.. So anyway, what's the deal? I'm trying to be quiet here, and it sucks sometimes, but just venting. How long do you think a little break is for? Are you a believer of that 2 week rule, or do you go just a few days of silence?
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Posts: 439 (06/24/2009 9:04 PM) |
Period... How long do you go without talking to him, unless of course he initiates contacts... I believe that sometimes 3-4 days is necessary. How long have
you gone or try to go?
Like right now I am missing my man like crazy, but things have been rough for us lately with life issues etc. He's an introvert, while I'm an extrovert etc.. So anyway, what's the deal? I'm trying to be quiet here, and it sucks sometimes, but just venting. How long do you think a little break is for? Are you a believer of that 2 week rule, or do you go just a few days of silence? |
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Posts: 1355 (06/24/2009 9:07 PM) |
I wouldn't be in a relationship that required a "cooling period" so frequently that I had to define it.
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Posts: 539 (06/24/2009 9:08 PM) |
i can't go 2 days without seeing him. mad or not. i'm weak?
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Posts: 4713 (06/24/2009 9:09 PM) |
Until he apologizes for being wrong
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Posts: 27012 (06/24/2009 9:10 PM) Biggest Know It All '09
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KristinWasBanned wrote:I was just going to say... my bf and I have never done this. |
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Posts: 16761 (06/24/2009 9:10 PM) |
He's an introvert and I'm an extrovert as well. We get into arguments very so often but I don't think we've ever had issues where we had to
stop all contact with each other. If we have something to talk about, we talk and work it out. If we're sick of the issue, then we'll pick it up later.
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Posts: 440 (06/24/2009 9:11 PM) |
So you guys don't believe in leaving one another alone and having your own lives?? Where you're not talking every day, or what not.. I mean, a lot of
people would agree with me that sometimes space is necessary and healthy and a good thing.. Hmm interesting.
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BWhammy |
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Posts: 4715 (06/24/2009 9:12 PM) |
Well I'm married to 'my man', so having our own lives and not talking every day is kind of.. impossible.
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Posts: 27013 (06/24/2009 9:12 PM) Biggest Know It All '09
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theNavigator wrote:We have our space but not because we're fighting. |
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Posts: 6871 (06/24/2009 9:12 PM) |
I have gone a day (or a night) w/o talking, but we'd try to talk it out the next day. Most of the time he'd make the first move contacting me, but I
have done it, too.
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Certainly Not Dcutie |
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Posts: 16082 (06/24/2009 9:16 PM) |
5 minutes.
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theNavigator |
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Posts: 441 (06/24/2009 9:17 PM) |
Yeah I'm not fighting, it's just a weird time lately. Things going on in each of our lives where it's not exactly "pretty"... So it's
hard on the relationship and quiet once in awhile. I was just curious, I guess you gals have your guy on tighter leashes.. IDK. I thought it was normal not to
talk for a day or two.. sometimes three days..
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AudaciousAudrey |
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Posts: 27014 (06/24/2009 9:21 PM) Biggest Know It All '09
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theNavigator wrote:You said if we're having issues, how long do we go without talking? My point is that we've never had issues serious enough to where we stopped talking. |
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Posts: 4716 (06/24/2009 9:22 PM) |
theNavigator wrote: What if you move in together or have a kid etc? You'll just not talk or the other one will go to a motel? idgi. |
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Posts: 212 (06/24/2009 9:28 PM) |
I go maybe a few hours without talking to him. we live together so there is no cooling period for us.
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Posts: 11348 (06/24/2009 9:30 PM) |
GlitzNGlamourAngel wrote:Ditto to a T. |
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Posts: 1091 (06/24/2009 9:35 PM) |
you should never go to sleep angry at something or someone.
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Posts: 15749 (06/24/2009 9:46 PM) |
Yeah I agree with everyone else. It's never more than a few hours. Neither of us has done anything so terrible that we don't work it out before we go
to sleep. We're both very understanding people so we may give the other person a couple hours, but nothing more than that. We never go to bed "not
talking". Everything is always better by the time we wake up.
If you don't mind me asking, how old are you guys? I can see being younger it'd be easier to give a longer "cooling off" period, but my bf and I are 22/23 and it's impossible to go DAYS without talking even if we're upset at one another. |
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Posts: 3516 (06/24/2009 9:51 PM) |
I'm married so I can't go days w/o speaking to him. Some times though, I will ignore him all day. But the problem with that is, I let all my anger and
frustrations build up until I just BLOW UP. But I've been getting better at it. And I hate to go to bed mad. I can't sleep, I feel sick to my stomach.
We've only done it a few times and it's the worse.
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Posts: 4701 (06/24/2009 10:10 PM) |
couple hours
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Posts: 613 (06/24/2009 10:25 PM) |
My fiance says to give him two or three days to cool off ofter we had a big fight. I can't do that I have to talk to him because I can't go more than a
day without talking to him.
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