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dedaman03 wrote:

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MLE 6 wrote:

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dedaman03 wrote:

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MLE 6 wrote:

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dedaman03 wrote:

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Sham99 wrote:

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Jon saying he was excited to move on with the next chapter of his life was so messed up.

Why though? I don't get why no one can understand his excitement about getting away from that fun-sucker Kate. I can't imagine living with someone like that, let alone being
married to


them. She run's more than a tight ship, bitch is just ridiculous with her expectations and demands and his ass got fed up. That's what happens in
a


marriage when you let money and material things take front row over your family and children. I told my husband at least two years ago Jon would get fed
up


with her ass and leave her.

Because probably sometime in the near future his children are going to watch that. If I had ever heard my dad say that about his separation from my mom I
would


have been devastated.

I'm sure when they are older, after seeing how demeaning and downright rude their was to their father on a constant basis, they'll
understand where his comment came from. Hell she's barely cordial to the kids so I'm sure in the near future they'll all be begging to live with
Jon anyways....

Sure, when they're older. But years and years will pass before they will be able to process that the split wasn't their fault and what was really
behind his excitement.

Well according to my Adolescent Psych professor and the textbook, if the situation is handled in a positive way, there isn't a lot of finacial strain on the mother ( and we all know Kate is rolling in the dough since they make $75,000/episode), and the parents don't make the children pick sides or feel like their picking sides, they should be alright. Now we know that this doesn't apply to everyone, but I know plenty of parents in my twin 6 year olds class who not only have parents who live in other cities/states, but are very well-adjusted and happy soon-to-be 1st graders. Kids do have a sense of guilt, but they are also very resilent too. Oh, and according to my professor late teens and adults have a more difficult time adjusting to their parents divorcing than young children/adolescents do.

I was speaking about the specific instance of the children hearing what Jon said about being excited to start a new chapter in his life. I would guess it won't be too long before the older twins somehow are able to watch the episode and hearing what he said makes it sound like he is excited to begin a new phase of his life without them.

My parents split when I was 4 and put my interests first throughout the entire process. While I won't say I rejoiced, I don't feel I was too badly damaged and that was 20+ years ago. I understand firsthand what you are saying about how it can be done properly. However, my parent's split wasn't played out across tv and tabloids and wasn't under the same amount of stress or scrutiny.

I *do* believe that happy and divorced parents are better for children than unhappy, constantly arguing married ones so I'm certainly not saying they should stay together, just that Jon should have kept that "excited" bit to himself. I mean, come on! That was an assy thing to say. Like Piney said: ok to think it, not ok to say it out loud (On tv. Where your kids will be able to watch it.)