On the one side I'm so IN LOVE with being single, young, on my way to working toward a better career, in a city I love, with friends I love. On the flip
side of the coin, many of my friends are getting married or just got engaged, my best friend is due with her first child this week (3 years of marriage this
Dec.)....and seeing it, being a part of their big moments is making the part of me that so much wants a loving marriage and kids scream "why not me
too!?". I feel both of these conflicting sides of the spectrum SO much.
I wish I could just kick tha marriage/family side of me into shutting up for good for awhile, because I'm never going to get being young, single, free to
be a bit selfish right now time back.
Any other 20 something ladies dealing with these feelings?
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Posts: 16968 (06/22/2009 9:00 PM) |
I'm not completely the same, but I get what you mean. I am happy with the way life is right now, but people all around are getting engaged/married, having
babies, and I just WANT it!! I'm almost jealous of them, even though it's not that time for me yet.
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Posts: 3954 (06/22/2009 9:16 PM) |
Yea, me too. I'm not single, but my closest friends are both married and have a kid (with plans of another one in the works) and the rest of my friends are
engaged or getting married this year.
I love my life (most of it) and I don't want to be married right now, but the more time I spend with my friends the more it makes me want that stuff (marriage, babies), but I know I'll have it when the time is right (which is not now). |
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Posts: 31242 (06/22/2009 9:18 PM) |
I'm 26. Most people from my graduating class are married with children, newlyweds, or engaged. Its depressing. I don't want to be single. I want to be
married w/kidss, too.
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Posts: 1173 (06/22/2009 9:19 PM) |
i'm feeling it too. i'm in a relationship that doesn't seem to be going anywhere. on one side, i'm not pressuring my bf so i can finish my
master's but on the other side, i'm starting to feel like everyone around me is getting engaged, married, having kids, etc. but me.
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I don't want kids or really to get married right now. I just want to have someone I care about and that I can be comfortable with right now. I don't
know, its weird.
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Posts: 437 (06/22/2009 9:27 PM) |
Yep I feel that same way. I love being single and independent, especially since I tend to get very emotionally invested with boyfriends to the point where
their worries become my worries. It's nice to only worry about one person rather than two. But sometimes I really do miss the companionship and that
feeling like you have a "partner in crime." A lot of my friends are getting married or are in very serious relationships that are heading towards
marriage, so it's hard to be constantly surrounded by that. Although for the most part, I would not trade their relationships for my singledom. They're
all pretty dysfunctional
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Posts: 26434 (06/22/2009 9:29 PM) |
Muzak one wrote:One of my friends celebrates her first wedding anniversary tomorrow and it feels like half of the girls from my undergrad graduating class is married. Two have gotten married this year so far and one gets married next month. I'm not even feeling the marriage thing; I've just always wanted children but I'm not having any without a husband. 
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Posts: 668 (06/22/2009 9:41 PM) |
I'm 25 and officially have zero single friends, which is really hard sometimes. I don't want to be married yet, or to have kids, but I do want
someone. Unfortunately, unless I want to constantly go out with couples, I have to just sit around and wait for that
someone to magically appear. It sucks.
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Posts: 1719 (06/22/2009 9:41 PM) |
shoebaby1 wrote: This. I am 26 and single and while I am ok with it I feel so much social pressure to be in a relationship/get married. And like others have said, it doesn't help that the majority of my friends (like 95% of them) are either in a super serious relationships or married (some with kids). I hate it. I mean, I want to be in a relationship but I hate the pressure I feel. |
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