Courtney Love1 wrote:So you shouldn't thank your dad for working hard and providing money? And mowing the lawn and taking out the trash? Moms and dads have different roles but they're still important.
JayneOC wrote:This.
Because traditionally moms do more in the children raising than the dads.
Even in households where the father is present and active in the children's lives, I think the majority of child-rearing is done by the mother, even if the difference in effort is as slight as 51% mother, 49% father.
The only times I've personally seen it where the father did more child-rearing than the mother was during extreme circumstances, such as the mother had passed away or the mother was ill or the mother was up to no good (e.g. drugs, alcohol, in jail, etc.).
Why is mother's day revered, but when it's father's day
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Posts: 6731 (06/21/2009 7:09 PM) |
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Posts: 2053 (06/21/2009 7:10 PM) |
Ever think the reason that most dad's are shit is because women have terrible taste in men and date assholes. Also they don't act responsibly and use
protection and get pregnant before marriage. Women have always sucked but they used to be faithful and stay with their husband because they couldn't
support themselves. Nowadays they don't care if the father is around because they can support themselves or make the government give them handouts.
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Posts: 333 (06/21/2009 7:11 PM) |
My dad was shit too. Haven't seen him since my parents got a divorce 7 years ago. I don't spend a dime on fathers day. I spend a ton on my mom for
mothers day though, this year I paid off one of her credit cards for her along with other small gifts.
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Courtney Love1 |
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Posts: 6491 (06/21/2009 7:13 PM) |
Yeah Christianne wrote: Dude, you are completely reading something into my post that was soooooooo totally not there. 
Where on earth did I say fathers shouldn't be thanked for their parenting efforts? |
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Posts: 334 (06/21/2009 7:15 PM) |
DarthRedimo wrote:No, the dads that are shit are so because they chose to be. |
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TheFreshPrincess |
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Posts: 2192 (06/21/2009 7:16 PM) |
I noticed that facebook statuses are a little hostile today
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Posts: 21439 (06/21/2009 7:27 PM) |
I celebrate Father's Day with the same reverence as Mother's Day.
I try to focus on the father's that work really hard to provide stability and love in their kids' lives. Regardless whether someone had a deadbeat dad or not, I don't see the need to project that resentment onto the dad's that actually do make an effort. Although perhaps that's easier for me to say because I've had an amazing dad. |
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Posts: 45473 (06/21/2009 7:59 PM) |
My dad just moved back home (he retired to Hawaii in 1999) to MI and it was the first time I got to celebrate in the past decade. My dad is pretty cool so we
had a great day with the family.
p.s. My mom is dead so Mother's day is the one that is 
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Posts: 39636 (06/21/2009 8:02 PM) |
Maybe it's because mother's are usually associated with the ones who have to do "all the work" because of the kids, and the fact that women
tend to celebrate more than men (shopping and whatnot). Most of the guys I come across would rather be working or just relaxing with a beer in the back yard.
Going out and "celebrating" isn't first on their list.
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Posts: 6493 (06/21/2009 8:09 PM) |
TheFreshPrincess wrote: I'm curious, can you post some of them? |
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Nico Corvus |
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Posts: 45476 (06/21/2009 8:10 PM) |
Courtney Love1 wrote:If I had to write about my biological father, I would be raging too. Total dipshit. |
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Posts: 2706 (06/21/2009 8:12 PM) |
IdDoJC100Ways wrote:I agree with this, at least with my family. My mom makes a big deal about Mother's Day and lets us know exactly what she wants  On the other hand my dad usually just says he wants a card (but of course we
get him an actual present).
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Semirhage626 |
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Posts: 6540 (06/21/2009 8:17 PM) |
JrTzHuNNiE wrote: Ditto. |
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Posts: 65552 (06/21/2009 8:20 PM) |
My dad is great. He doesn't ever want us to make a big deal out of father's day. He's just happy if we come over and hang out for a while.
My mom however, sends magazines with things circled a month before mother's day and expects an effing ticker-tape parade! This year was easy though. They both got wedding albums.
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Posts: 7026 (06/21/2009 8:22 PM) |
Courtney Love1 wrote:Totally not the case in my family. I come from a normal upper-middle class house without any illness, no jail, nothing. My parents are both professionals, but my dad was a HUGE part of my life. I still talk to him almost every day, much more than I talk to my mom. He took me to school and picked me up every single day for 12 years. Every Monday night, it was just me and my Dad because my mom worked. We've always been exceptionally close, and I'd venture to say that he did the majority of the child-rearing, even with my very involved mother. Even to this day, it's my dad who helps me move. It's my dad who calls me. It's my dad who sends me emails. I'm 25 years old and still daddy's girl. I feel really lucky to have a father who cares and sacrifices that much for me. I can only hope my future children know a father who's like that. |
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Posts: 7542 (06/21/2009 8:25 PM) |
A lot of people here have daddy issues, it seems.
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Nico Corvus |
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Posts: 45479 (06/21/2009 8:31 PM) |
DunderMifflinInc wrote: Aww thanks! 
On a different note- men suck that is why so many of us have issues. Men don't get it. They hump and dump- procreate, that's it. |
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Posts: 15029 (06/21/2009 8:34 PM) |
Semirhage626 wrote:  Exactly!
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Posts: 10504 (06/21/2009 10:11 PM) |
Jess116005 wrote:yeah, i agree. it sucks that so many people are not fortunate enough to have a father in their lives, but it's really depressing when you're trying to get excited about father's day. |
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Courtney Love1 |
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Posts: 6503 (06/21/2009 10:33 PM) |
Okay, on the serious here: the incessant man-bashing on JJB is really fucking annoying.
And I say that as a woman whose father left at age 4-ish and I never saw the man again until his funeral at about age 22-ish. So, trust me, I got daddy issues too. Yes, there are SOME fucked-up men out there who have done exceptionally shitty jobs of being fathers/boyfriends/husbands/brothers/uncles/whatever. But stop with the 'OMGZ, every single man on the planet is a piece of shit, that's why you need to be without a man like I am, girl power!!!!1111!!!!' already in almost every thread about men on this site, because there are a quite a few WONDERFUL men out there in the world. If you had a fucked-up male situation in your life, I feel for you, I really do. I know what it's like. But get help for it. No shame in that. There's only so long you can cry victim as an adult over what happened to you as a child. |
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