i'm 19 and i feel like my life is over
i can't stop crying
i don't know what to do
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DigOutYourSoul |
can someone help me please |
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Posts: 401 (06/21/2009 2:27 PM) |
i'm very depressed
i'm 19 and i feel like my life is over i can't stop crying i don't know what to do |
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Posts: 14527 (06/21/2009 2:29 PM) |
I don't know if we can provide the help you need. You may have to seek professional help. I'm sorry you're feeling that way.
Is there something
in particular that caused this, or just everything?
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DigOutYourSoul |
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Posts: 402 (06/21/2009 2:33 PM) |
just everything. I know i've failed my exams and I know i'm not going anywhere in life
i just feel like i've wasted 19 years, and i really see no pointin living anymore |
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SpiritualHerpes |
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Posts: 11613 (06/21/2009 2:56 PM) Best Screen Name '07 |
Things can and will get better. I second the professional help suggestion. If your depression is so bad that suicide seems like the only option then you most
likely need therapy and/or medication. I know this from personal experience. I have battled depression for six years, have attempted suicide twice, and earlier
this year I was hospitalized. Treatment is tough and won't work overnight, but it is so worth it. It works. Now I'm more happy and "normal"
than I can ever remember being.
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DigOutYourSoul |
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Posts: 403 (06/21/2009 3:25 PM) |
How would I even go about getting help? No one's taking me seriously
I just need to talk to someone...anyone. Would a doctor point me in the right direction? |
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NancyOttawa |
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Posts: 6122 (06/21/2009 3:29 PM) |
Can you not talk to your mother about this? I doubt a bunch of strangers can do anything for you. Tell her you would like to see a doctor and they should refer
you to a counsellor or psychologist. Depression in teens, sadly is getting more and more common these days so you aren't alone.
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truelove97 |
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Posts: 169 (06/21/2009 3:30 PM) |
A doctor would def. point you in the right direction. Also, if you have insurance, call them and ask them what counselors are under your plan and go from
there. If you don't have insurance, just pick a counselor and call.
Life is hard, but it is so worth it. Just because you failed your exam doesn't mean you are going no where. You can get through this.
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RedLampDistrict |
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Posts: 9369 (06/21/2009 3:33 PM) |
You failed your college exams, or high school? Did you fail all of them, or just a couple? How was your final GPA?
Maybe if you figure out everything a little at a time, it won't seem so overwhelming.
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justinsalterego |
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Posts: 3362 (06/21/2009 3:36 PM) |
I want you to call this number NOW! Talk about everything and anything... It would be an amazing start for you. 1-800-273-TALK.
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DigOutYourSoul |
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Posts: 404 (06/21/2009 3:37 PM) |
I've spoken to both my parents but they can't see where i'm coming from. My dad's like "if you have failed, it's not the end of the
world...we're you're parents we're here to support you" they think it's something I'll just get over. I don't think they
understand how bad I feel. Plus, it's not just exams, it's everything...I just have zero confidence.
I've been crying for seven hours on and off for the past 5/6 days, I haven't left the house, and when I'm not crying I'm sleeping. I just feel like I want to stay in my room forever. Nancy, I know it sounds weird, but just typing up how ifeel (even if it's to a bunch of strangers) makes me feel a tiny bit better. |
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NancyOttawa |
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Posts: 6126 (06/21/2009 3:40 PM) |
Well someone left you a number here and I suggest you call it if you are really looking for help. Best of luck to you.
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DigOutYourSoul |
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Posts: 405 (06/21/2009 3:40 PM) |
RedLampDistrict wrote:I'm from the UK. I took a gap year before I started my A-levels, and I have offers from top universities and they want me to get AAB for my final grades. I know for a fact that i haven't achieved those grades (results day is in august) so they're going to reject me. It's not a case of 'maybe you did well'-- I just know i've failed. |
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NancyOttawa |
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Posts: 6127 (06/21/2009 3:44 PM) |
UK. Ok, that number left won't help you then. Call this one instead
Help to heal /
Depression counselling uses a number of approaches including Gestalt therapy and client centred therapy. These therapies use a variety of methods to confront and battle depression and are practiced widely in the UK. See the link following this guide. It can also be helpful to consult a doctor who may be able to recommend other forms of counselling and support for people coping with depression. Definition of depression - Depression is an illness that has the potential to cause persistent unhappiness and distress. Sufferers may experience a wide range of negative feelings such as hopelessness, loss of confidence or feelings of guilt. Depression may also manifest itself in other ways. For example, a person may try to avoid others or lose motivation for work or school. In some cases they might experience suicidal tendencies. Depression can be triggered by upsetting experiences such as a bereavement, relationship breakdown or unemployment. It has the potential to effect anyone, although certain people are more susceptible than others. Registered charity Sane suggest that 1 in 6 people will suffer from depression at some stage in their lives. Although depression counselling can help people to work through their problems, in more serious cases the advice of a GP should be sought. To receive help, it is very important that the sufferer recognises that they have a problem. This can be quite challenging, especially for men who may see depression as a sign of weakness - this may explain why the majority of people who report the condition are women. There are plenty of resources available for help in coping with depression. Below, we've provided a selection of help-lines and depression support services. Find depression counselling in your area
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DigOutYourSoul |
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Posts: 406 (06/21/2009 3:47 PM) |
thank you
I will call soon |
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xxGirlxxFixerxx |
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Posts: 2316 (06/21/2009 3:57 PM) |
DigOutYourSoul wrote: Well I don't know about the UK but here in Canada it's not uncommon for Grade 12 students to come back as super seniors to finish off missed credits or bump up their grades. Honestly, I agree with your parents. If you failed then what else can you do but learn from it and go back and do better. It's easy to say "I fail, I'm finished, I can't do anything about it" that's a cop out. Every student has had that OOPS moment and then they freak out but my where would we all be if we just threw out hands up and said THAT'S IT I'M DONE, IT'S HOPELESS, I CAN'T DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT! Wrong! You certainly can! You've obviously realized that you messed up, so now you need to figure out how you're going to fix it!
And in all honestly, most people screw up their exams at some point. I had a Uni prof this past year who told us a few stories of how she messed up her final exams but things still worked out for her! She has a PhD and she's a prof at a highly regarded University. |
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Posts: 6061 (06/21/2009 4:05 PM) |
xxGirlxxFixerxx wrote:^ICAM. Only those who fail are the ones who don't go back up and try again. I've been there where I messed up some exams for my major courses and thought that I would never go on to the next level course but I did! And yes, I've cried and whine but if you keep doing those, you actually aren't making an improvement, you'll still be at the same level of not doing anything about it. So just get back up there and do something to make the situation for the better. |
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NancyOttawa |
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Posts: 6129 (06/21/2009 4:05 PM) |
Very good words GirlFire and I agree 100%. To me it's like "suck it up now and get back at the books and see what you can do to fix it". but
when someone "says" they are crying 7 hours a day for the last 5 or 6 days and can't get out of bed, either they are exaggerating and looking for
attention or need some sort of serious counselling. We don't know this girl so it's hard to know which it is which is why I agree she should call a
hotline.
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DigOutYourSoul |
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Posts: 408 (06/21/2009 4:13 PM) |
I'm not exaggerating. I want to stop feeling the way I'm feeling but I can't. It's not just exams, I'm just not happy with the way I've
lived my life. It's easy to say 'get over it' but I can't. For instance, the other day I kept thinking everyone around me was going to die...it
sounds crazy but it led me to have panic attacks. I think everything isjust catching up to me, because I've always been one to kind of not tell people how
I'm feeling.
I am going to call the hotline |
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justinsalterego |
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Posts: 3363 (06/21/2009 4:23 PM) |
Good. Thats the best first step. You need to talk to someone who can help you through it. They will be able to help you get in contact with the right people as
well.
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NancyOttawa |
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Posts: 6131 (06/21/2009 4:57 PM) |
DigOutYourSoul wrote:Good for you, and I wasn't saying that you specifically were exaggerating but we've had other people post here also but the more people try to help and make suggestions, it's like they just don't listen and just keep on complaining. It appears that you are not one of these people though if you are going to make that call. I'm sure they are better trained to help if you are actually clinically depressed. Good luck DOYS! |
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truelove97 |
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Posts: 170 (06/21/2009 7:05 PM) |
Dig- Did you call the hotline? I need an update....I'm really concerned.
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