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jus4lafs	This is the hardest breakup ever...	Lead	[-]
Posts: 187 (06/19/2009 10:03 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	for me.... it's been almost a week of no contact at all... before this it was on and off for a while but it doesn't make this any easier... I'm losing my mind... he's been a complete asshole to me and yet I still miss him like crazy... Today is extra hard for some reason and I've been getting the urge to call or send him a text but my pride just won't let me do it thank God.... I wanna go out or something but all my friends are spending the night with their significant others which is not helping the situation... This was my first serious relationship in a really long time.... How do you go about getting over someone? I don't remember it being this hard
taradise		#1	[-]
Posts: 504 (06/19/2009 10:08 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	I credit my ex with cutting off contact with me - he told me it'd be easier if we didn't have any contact with each other and he was right. I hated him for it at the time but it's really best. It seems like the worst possible thing right now because all you want to do is call him or text him but in the long run, it's best. When we broke up I thought my world was crashing down and like all things, it takes time. There's a book called It's Called A Breakup Because it's broken and if you haven't read it already, it's worth your investment. It got me through that break-up and I've been passing it around to my girlfriends ever since.
jtsbabygurl		#2	[-]
Posts: 28620 (06/19/2009 10:08 PM) Most Used Emoticons Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	How long were y'all together and why did you break up?
Yeah Christianne		#3	[-]
Posts: 6711 (06/19/2009 10:16 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	taradise wrote: I credit my ex with cutting off contact with me - he told me it'd be easier if we didn't have any contact with each other and he was right. I hated him for it at the time but it's really best. It seems like the worst possible thing right now because all you want to do is call him or text him but in the long run, it's best. When we broke up I thought my world was crashing down and like all things, it takes time. I could have written every word of this! That's exactly what happened with me and my last ex - he cut off all contact and I was so miserable, but it was totally for the best.
Sunshine4		#4	[-]
Posts: 21051 (06/19/2009 10:18 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	enotalone.com
jus4lafs		#5	[-]
Posts: 188 (06/19/2009 10:19 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	jtsbabygurl wrote: How long were y'all together and why did you break up? A year and a half..... and so many reasons.... There's a thread somewhere here that explains pretty much everything... he even decided to pop onto jjb and add his two cents.... it was grrrrreat
SusieMC		#6	[-]
Posts: 435 (06/19/2009 10:31 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	Find something to busy yourself with. For me it was baseball. Sounds stupid but putting my energy into that made me completely get over him. Don't get me wrong, it took me close to a year to do it....but once I did it was done. And I realize that I was mostly wanting to call or text him because I didn't understand how he could just cut contact like that and not feel any sense of loss that I was no longer in his life. Now I realize that that is exactly what he did....and it makes him an asshole of epic proportions and one of the biggest reasons we never should've been together to begin with. And now....he's trying to contact me and I am getting much enjoyment out of ignoring it.
taradise		#7	[-]
Posts: 505 (06/19/2009 10:34 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	SusieMC wrote: And now....he's trying to contact me and I am getting much enjoyment out of ignoring it. Haha, I am going through THE SAME THING. He just made up a fake myspace account and E-mailed me from that because I was ignoring all communication...I knew it was him because I know how the jerk types...and his awful grammer...
jus4lafs		#8	[-]
Posts: 190 (06/19/2009 10:35 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	SusieMC wrote: Find something to busy yourself with. For me it was baseball. Sounds stupid but putting my energy into that made me completely get over him. Don't get me wrong, it took me close to a year to do it....but once I did it was done. And I realize that I was mostly wanting to call or text him because I didn't understand how he could just cut contact like that and not feel any sense of loss that I was no longer in his life. Now I realize that that is exactly what he did....and it makes him an asshole of epic proportions and one of the biggest reasons we never should've been together to begin with. And now....he's trying to contact me and I am getting much enjoyment out of ignoring it.
theNavigator		#9	[-]
Posts: 404 (06/19/2009 10:38 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	It's not easy. I feel your pain. Believe me I do. But believe that you will find someone else again, and no matter how hard or sad you are, remember you deserve Happiness, Peacefulness and good in your life. Enotalone was a site I read a lot. Loveshack.org also. I'm not too sure what's going on with my current relationship, it's rough on me too even though we're still together. Sometimes they are rough patches, and sometimes it truly isn't meant to be. Just remember to be a little kind to yourself. Try barnes and noble and read up on stuff, whether it be books on stuff you like, or dealing with a break up etc. It helps a little.
Master Zik.niketalk		#10	[-]
Posts: 32 (06/19/2009 10:54 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	Move on......... to me
jus4lafs		#11	[-]
Posts: 191 (06/19/2009 11:08 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	Master Zik wrote: Move on......... to me
theNavigator		#12	[-]
Posts: 406 (06/19/2009 11:15 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	Is that him posting again? if so what an awful prick. Why don't you let her be and leave her alone. Pussy!
jRtS dReAm GrL		#13	[-]
Posts: 6250 (06/19/2009 11:15 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	Think back to something that you did before you met him that you really enjoyed and didn't have much of a chance to do anymore (be it a sport/dance/type of exercise/travel/anything), and focus on it again. Spend time with friends. KEEP BUSY, it's key. Go to the bookstore and buy some books. After a 3 1/2 year breakup I read A LOT. I also kept a journal for when I had the urge to contact him. I felt that it really helped me a lot and helped fight off the urge to contact him. Just remember that things will get better, but that it takes time. One day you'll look back on it and realize how much better off you are now.
nerdnik		#14	[-]
Posts: 15714 (06/19/2009 11:16 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	jus4lafs wrote: jtsbabygurl wrote: How long were y'all together and why did you break up? A year and a half..... and so many reasons.... There's a thread somewhere here that explains pretty much everything... he even decided to pop onto jjb and add his two cents.... it was grrrrreat What?
jus4lafs		#15	[-]
Posts: 194 (06/19/2009 11:19 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	nerdnik wrote: jus4lafs wrote: jtsbabygurl wrote: How long were y'all together and why did you break up? A year and a half..... and so many reasons.... There's a thread somewhere here that explains pretty much everything... he even decided to pop onto jjb and add his two cents.... it was grrrrreat What? http://www.jjb.yuku.com/topic/522426 I'm warning you my backstory is looooooong.... Sorry... I was venting
x Mea Culpa x		#16	[-]
Posts: 1200 (06/20/2009 12:21 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	What an ass
Jloveandjlo		#17	[-]
Posts: 5612 (06/20/2009 12:45 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	You post this thread when he's lurking around on these boards? All you're gonna do is boost his ego!
jus4lafs		#18	[-]
Posts: 197 (06/20/2009 12:57 AM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	Jloveandjlo wrote: You post this thread when he's lurking around on these boards? All you're gonna do is boost his ego! He's not lurking... he couldn't careless and anyways he knows how I feel regardless of if he sees this or not.... like I said today has just been extra hard for some reason hence the reason for my post...
jus4lafs		#19	[-]
Posts: 200 (06/20/2009 12:51 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	jtsbabygurl wrote: How long were y'all together and why did you break up? Originally I said a year and a half but last night when I was laying in bed sulking I actually thought about it and and did the math and it's actually a year and a couple of months although the last two-three months shouldn't really count cause if we weren't having sex we were arguing and I'm pretty sure he was talking with other females... I was never one for keeping track of anniversaries and all that junk
SassyLassy24		#20	[-]
Posts: 1291 (06/20/2009 1:33 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Friend Block Invite Ignore	It's said that it usually takes about half the time you were together to get over someone. So if you were with him for a little over a year it will probably take you 6 months until you feel completely over him. Sad but true. Stay busy doing things with friends. Pick up a new hobby that you will have fun doing. It really does help. Whatever you do, don't look at his MySpace or Facebook etc. It will only keep those feelings lingering.

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