A few months ago I caught my boyfriend in a lie. He was out with his guy friends and he told me that they went to a certain bar. Whenever he is out without me,
he always texts me and keeps in touch but that night he was really shady because at a certain point all of his texts stopped and he was ignorning mine. The
next day I asked him what happened and he just said he left his phone in his car. Really strange, because he always has his phone on him...I was getting pretty
suspicious about it so a few days later I looked thru his phone. I know that was wrong...
I found an exchange he had with his friend who was with him that night. His friend was saying how his girlfriend was pissed too because he wasn't responding to her texts either. He said he told her the same thing how he left his phone in his car when they went to the "bar" (he used the quotes), and then his friend goes, "Just don't tell her what kind of bar it was" and my boyfriend said, "yea, i'm not that dumb"
Obviously that meant a strip club, and since you aren't allowed to take your phones in, it made sense as to why he didn't have his on phone him. I wanted to confront him about it, but since I looked through his phone, I wasn't exactly innocent either...A couple days later I couldnt't take it anymore so I just told him I know you went to a strip club, why'd you lie, etc...He kept denying it and was asking me why I thought that..This went on for like an hour, finally, I just told him I went through his phone.
Now, this all happened like three months ago and we are fine now. However, he always holds on to his phone now when I'm around. Whenever I stay over and he gets in the shower, he takes his phone and leaves it in the bathroom with him. When he takes his dog out, he takes his phone with him, etc. I understand that I should have never looked through his phone but he gave me a reason to be suspicious. Now, I feel like whenever he goes out with his friends (it's not that often where I'm not with him), I feel sorta paranoid about what he is doing..Last weekend, he was out with his friends and he stopped texting me at 1:30am. I sent him a text and 2, just to see where is was at and he never responded...What bothered me was the next morning, he was like "Oh I was falling asleep when I got it". Well, the bars close at 2 and he still had like a 20 minute train ride to get home from where he was at. He always stays out till the bars closed so that story didn't make sense. I know he is not the kinda guy to cheat, but it just makes me really uncomfortable since the strip club incident and the fact that he now has his phone glued to him when I'm around. I don't even want to look at it, but it would make me feel more comfortable if he would just leave it somewhere, because with the way he is now, it feels like he's hiding things from me...
Am I just being paranoid or do I have a right to feel uncomfortable? I don't want to start a fight, but I do want to talk to him about this with him..
I found an exchange he had with his friend who was with him that night. His friend was saying how his girlfriend was pissed too because he wasn't responding to her texts either. He said he told her the same thing how he left his phone in his car when they went to the "bar" (he used the quotes), and then his friend goes, "Just don't tell her what kind of bar it was" and my boyfriend said, "yea, i'm not that dumb"
Obviously that meant a strip club, and since you aren't allowed to take your phones in, it made sense as to why he didn't have his on phone him. I wanted to confront him about it, but since I looked through his phone, I wasn't exactly innocent either...A couple days later I couldnt't take it anymore so I just told him I know you went to a strip club, why'd you lie, etc...He kept denying it and was asking me why I thought that..This went on for like an hour, finally, I just told him I went through his phone.
Now, this all happened like three months ago and we are fine now. However, he always holds on to his phone now when I'm around. Whenever I stay over and he gets in the shower, he takes his phone and leaves it in the bathroom with him. When he takes his dog out, he takes his phone with him, etc. I understand that I should have never looked through his phone but he gave me a reason to be suspicious. Now, I feel like whenever he goes out with his friends (it's not that often where I'm not with him), I feel sorta paranoid about what he is doing..Last weekend, he was out with his friends and he stopped texting me at 1:30am. I sent him a text and 2, just to see where is was at and he never responded...What bothered me was the next morning, he was like "Oh I was falling asleep when I got it". Well, the bars close at 2 and he still had like a 20 minute train ride to get home from where he was at. He always stays out till the bars closed so that story didn't make sense. I know he is not the kinda guy to cheat, but it just makes me really uncomfortable since the strip club incident and the fact that he now has his phone glued to him when I'm around. I don't even want to look at it, but it would make me feel more comfortable if he would just leave it somewhere, because with the way he is now, it feels like he's hiding things from me...
Am I just being paranoid or do I have a right to feel uncomfortable? I don't want to start a fight, but I do want to talk to him about this with him..
