Why the hell is this nine pages
Kate Gosselin "Losing control" Spanking her child
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Posts: 981 (06/18/2009 12:37 PM) |
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SassyLassy24 |
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Posts: 1285 (06/18/2009 12:41 PM) |
Watch Bridezillas. They are perfect examples of kids that were never spanked as children.
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FSCgrl83 |
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Posts: 51389 (06/18/2009 12:42 PM)
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It is only 4 pages for me.
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JeterFan |
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Posts: 20812 (06/18/2009 12:43 PM) |
And timeout from what? What if you're not doing anything to take a timeout from? And if a nine year old knows all he'll have to do is sit in a corner
for ten minutes as punishment that probably wouldn't be enough of a reason to stop him from doing whatever thing he knows he's not supposed to be
doing.
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06/18/2009 12:46 PM.
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Momobobo |
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Posts: 11069 (06/18/2009 1:23 PM) |
SassyLassy24 wrote:Or examples of kids that were spanked and now that they are older, no longer fear the only thing that would keep them from acting out: getting spanked. What about teaching your children from a young age WHY acting out is inappropriate? There are many well-behaved children who don't act out in public, and they are never spanked. |
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LuvBug |
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Posts: 2919 (06/18/2009 1:37 PM) |
I was never spanked and I didn't act out in public.
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Jeannine8 |
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Posts: 6950 (06/18/2009 1:38 PM) |
There's nothing wrong with spanking. There are also kids that have no need for spanking naturally. Those mothers should be thankful.
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FSCgrl83 |
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Posts: 51393 (06/18/2009 1:50 PM)
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I always hear people say that "I was a good kid, I never got in trouble, etc". I was a good kid too. I hated getting in trouble, getting yelled at,
etc. But there were certainly times no matter how good I was that i did something that definitely warranted my butt getting beat.
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kellyilla |
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Posts: 24689 (06/18/2009 2:01 PM) |
SassyLassy24 wrote:This.
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femme0622 |
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Posts: 1711 (06/18/2009 2:02 PM) |
FSCgrl83 wrote:This  As a mother, there are times when I look back and ask
my mom how she handled my behavior during certain phases....I wasn't an ill behaved/disrespectful child, but I definitely had times where I got my ass
whipped. Those times stand out b/c they were examples of what happens from extraordinarily bad behavior. Wonder how many parents there are today who didn't
spank or at least firmly discipline, that wish they had
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proudhebrew23 |
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Posts: 26666 (06/18/2009 2:07 PM)
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Momobobo wrote:Your logic has no place in this thread! |
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JeterFan |
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Posts: 20817 (06/18/2009 2:11 PM) |
And there isn't enough time in the day for a parent with kids to reason with a child while there's food on the stove, clothes to be washed and lunches
to prepare for tomorrow. Or if you're on the bus and the child starts to misbehave, as children sometimes do-where's the corner for the timeout? Many
times "the stare" worked with us. We didn't always get spanked. If we acted up at the store sometimes the cookies or the little toy went back on
the shelf. But the idea that the prerfectly planned timeout will work with all children everywhere is not true. And parents shouldn't have to reason with
a child and spend 20 minutes explaining why to a CHILD.
Your parent tells you to do something you do it-or face the consequences.
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06/18/2009 2:15 PM.
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JeterFan |
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Posts: 20818 (06/18/2009 2:14 PM) |
Every child knows that acting out is inappropriate. And that's the main reason why some of them do it. To get attention. To get back at mom or dad because
they didn't get something. Children are taught but they do it anyway because they are children! And there are many well behaved children who are that way
because they WERE spanked.
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proudhebrew23 |
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Posts: 26667 (06/18/2009 2:24 PM)
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It is completely laughable that some people (like JeterFan) think there is NO other way to raise a child but to spank them. Just as spanking is one method, not
spanking is another method. Your way is not the only way. Get over it.
And yes, you should explain WHY to a child. Obviously, explaining the "why" of a situation is not to get their consent over your decision regarding their behavior--but to get them to begin thinking logically about their behavior. To open those lines of communication, to get them reasoning beyond the initial physical consequence of their actions, and to prepare them to act correctly in times when mom and dad are NOT there to catch them. Punishments don't necessarily have to be as immediate as a slap on the ass. For example: knowing I was in a store and had to look forward to going home to sit in the middle of my room for an hour at the age of 7 (which equaled a life time, of course) was enough to keep me from being an idiot like that again. Boredom--one of many tools--is an amazing manipulative. I'm sure spanking has it's pros. I know it does. But to act as though there is no logical or possible way to raise well-behaved children without spanking is just laughable. Completely laughable.
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JeterFan |
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Posts: 20822 (06/18/2009 2:26 PM) |
No sense in calling me out because I clearly said there were other forms of punishment other than spanking. Try again.
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proudhebrew23 |
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Posts: 26668 (06/18/2009 2:27 PM)
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You edited as I was typing my response, apparently.
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JeterFan |
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Posts: 20823 (06/18/2009 2:31 PM) |
All children are not the same. To some children sitting in there room is enough to prevent them from misbehaving in the future. But to some others it is not.
"But timeouts and verbal warnings always worked for me!" Yeah, but what about the other 50 million or so kids in the world?
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Chipophilia |
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Posts: 266 (06/18/2009 2:34 PM) |
proudhebrew23 wrote:I love it. Someone before says they don't like spanking, and another replies with basically saying her kid will be out of control and destined for a spot on Maury. Oh, I had no idea spanking was the one true form of discipline. All right then! |
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proudhebrew23 |
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Posts: 26669 (06/18/2009 2:37 PM)
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JeterFan wrote:LOL I mentioned previously that there is no "one size fits all" method to child rearing. Just as timeouts don't work for everyone, nor is spanking necessary for every child--as many would like to imply. That's all I'm saying. |
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JeterFan |
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Posts: 20824 (06/18/2009 2:43 PM) |
Of course not. If you are lucky enough to have a child who doesn't need a spanking that's great. But when people call a few smacks to the behind
abusive I don't agree. Especially when DCFS is filled with children who were beat across the face and sexually abused. People just drop the word
"abuse" like it's nothing these days. Don't agree with something? A mom spanking her child in the grocery store interrupsts your shopping
experience? Cry abuse.
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